Older wives

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
trimixboy
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Re: Older wives

Postby trimixboy » Wed Aug 24, 2016 10:13 pm

Jimbob, Your wife comes 5 times a session. How are you able to hold back? are you on trimix?
How many sessions a week?

JimBob07
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Re: Older wives

Postby JimBob07 » Fri Aug 26, 2016 8:52 am

I use pills and a ring. The ring helps me hold back. Less sensation, but really helps her! Usually 2 times a week. It hasn't always been like this. Just started in last year. I'm not complaining! ;) ;)

ShopMan
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Re: Older wives

Postby ShopMan » Sun Sep 18, 2016 8:13 pm

Let me preface this by saying that our sex lives are much like that of ontopher469. We are probably one of the oldest couples on this forum. I am 79 and she is 78. We have always enjoyed a robust sex life. Even somewhat before we were married. Lucky for us she didn't end up pregnant. :o :o

One difference between now and then is the frequency. What used to be almost daily (and sometimes more then once a day) it is now probably on average twice a week. However I think it's better sex now then before. My wife has grown more orgasmic for one thing. It is unusual for her to not climax less then 5 or 6 times. Last night by actual count was 7. There's two reasons for this. One is my AMS700-LGX and the other is I am very slow to ejaculate. And on those few times when I do manage to shoot a load I can still keep on going which she loves. I also prefer, as she does, her on top. It allows deeper penitration and I got to play with her boobs. It's a win win.

One of the new I things I also fantasize about, as does ontopher469, is working up the nerve to go down on her after my ejaculation in her vagina. The one area I wish she were more into is oral with my climax at the end. She will suck my now and then but I have to ask or suggest it. Seldom does she do it on her own. Because of my neck problems it is hard for me to bring her to climax orally. Any hints on this you guys. I wish I could give her that experience.

The funny thing about all this is her two sisters are totally sexless. To be fair with her older sister her husband has had a radical prostitectomy and when offered in implant he refused. They both agreed they could live without sex. Seems to work for them. Her middle sister's husband has a lot of depression problems and is not interested at all. Also she has admitted to my wife that she never was crazy about sex. Fair enough if it works for them it's ok with me. How did I get lucky enough to end up with the best sister of the lot. :D

If any of you guys wish to discuss this further I would love to. PM me and lets see when we can both learn.

Charlie
80 yrs. Married 60 years. Hypertension but under control with meds.

ED since 1995. Viagra then switched to Cialis. Both quit working.
Was on Trimix. Tri-Mix quit working. Implanted by Dr. Novak Grand Rapids, Mi 12/16/2014 AMS LGX

Lost Sheep
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Re: Older wives

Postby Lost Sheep » Thu Sep 29, 2016 9:42 pm

ShopMan wrote:
One of the new I things I also fantasize about, as does ontopher469, is working up the nerve to go down on her after my ejaculation in her vagina. The one area I wish she were more into is oral with my climax at the end. She will suck my now and then but I have to ask or suggest it. Seldom does she do it on her own. Because of my neck problems it is hard for me to bring her to climax orally. Any hints on this you guys. I wish I could give her that experience.

The so-called "69" position would probaably be easier on your neck. She on her back and you stretched over one of her hips. If she wants to return the favor all she need do is roll her upper body to reciprocate and you don't even have to hint verbally.

Cunnilingus on her might be more to your liking if you bring a warm, damp handtowel to bed and give her a mini-bath. Perhaps she has the same intokerance for semen as you do, so two damp towels might help I had a girlfriend who was sensitive to my semen's Ph and would get a rash, so a little washup became part of our afterplay which she found to be very thoughtful. (Thankfully, the irritation did not affect her inside.)

Happy Dining

Lost Sheep
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AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage, Alaska, USA

charlesr
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Re: Older wives

Postby charlesr » Fri Sep 30, 2016 11:36 am

ShopMan, have you ever heard the expression "If it's not broken, don't fix it?" If your wife has 5 - 7 orgasms per session I'd say you have a pretty good gig. If she's sitting on the fence for oral sex, that's one thing. But if she's against it, I wouldn't touch the wonderful relationship that you currently have. If she refuses something that you really insist upon, it could put a damper on feelings.

I would say that right now your sex life is an 11 on a 1 to 10, so leave it be.
Born 1951. Radical Robotic Prostatectomy on October 6, 2013. Bionic with Titan Touch with Bioflex Zero Degree 18cm w/ (1) rte Implant, Infrapubic, on July 13, 2015.

Lost Sheep
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Re: Older wives

Postby Lost Sheep » Fri Sep 30, 2016 6:04 pm

Craresr is right, of course. Getting pushy about emotionally vested feelings is guaranteed to produce suboptimal results (read: blow up in your face and destroy everything good).

What I suggsted in my post eases discomfort on your neck as its main consequence. The secondary effect is that the positioning allows (not suggests) her to change her mind if the inspiration moves her, NEVER get pushy, but merely accept with gratitude whatever she gives you as she does with whatever you give to her. Whatever is spontaneous is glorious - much more so than when it had to be requested.

Lost Sheep
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Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage, Alaska, USA

ShopMan
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Re: Older wives

Postby ShopMan » Mon Oct 03, 2016 9:29 pm

Good suggestions guys. She does go down on me on once in awhile. And she will often do it without my asking. I would still like to work up the courage to go down on her after I cum inside her. The idea excites me. The one is not her objection. It's just the I loose my nerve. Any suggestions on that problem?
Charlie
80 yrs. Married 60 years. Hypertension but under control with meds.

ED since 1995. Viagra then switched to Cialis. Both quit working.
Was on Trimix. Tri-Mix quit working. Implanted by Dr. Novak Grand Rapids, Mi 12/16/2014 AMS LGX

charlesr
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Re: Older wives

Postby charlesr » Tue Oct 04, 2016 10:17 pm

Are you nervous to go down on her or nervous to have semen in your mouth? I wish I had semen to worry about having in my mouth. I say just go for it. Down a pint of beer afterwards if it freaks you out.
Born 1951. Radical Robotic Prostatectomy on October 6, 2013. Bionic with Titan Touch with Bioflex Zero Degree 18cm w/ (1) rte Implant, Infrapubic, on July 13, 2015.

ShopMan
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Re: Older wives

Postby ShopMan » Thu Oct 06, 2016 9:38 pm

This one is right up my alley. We are 79 (me) and 77 (wife) We have been for many years (as one of our Dr's said) over sexed. That was several years ago when this Dr. kept me in Cialis samples. I now have been implanted for the last two years. Our sex lives have been on the up every since. She, for some reason, can get off only on penil sex and sometimes hand stimulation.
I would say that as she has aged she has become more sexual active. Guess we are lucky. The one side is I would love to be able to bring her off orally. For some reason she is either not turned on by it or my technique stinks.
Charlie
80 yrs. Married 60 years. Hypertension but under control with meds.

ED since 1995. Viagra then switched to Cialis. Both quit working.
Was on Trimix. Tri-Mix quit working. Implanted by Dr. Novak Grand Rapids, Mi 12/16/2014 AMS LGX

charlesr
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Re: Older wives

Postby charlesr » Fri Oct 07, 2016 3:52 pm

Can't help you there. Practice, practice, practice! All kidding aside, women's sensitivity is unique in every case. Some women like a super-light touch and something heavier just doesn't do it. So I guess there has to be some talk ahead and during.

This is just me. I'm anything but a sexual master. In fact, I'm a dinosaur (and so is my wife) with one sexual partner and no sex until we were married. So, take what I say with a grain of lube . . . I mean salt.
Born 1951. Radical Robotic Prostatectomy on October 6, 2013. Bionic with Titan Touch with Bioflex Zero Degree 18cm w/ (1) rte Implant, Infrapubic, on July 13, 2015.


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