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Lost Sheep wrote:

Asquared65 wrote:I wouldn’t necessarily say I have thought about sexual orientation due to my ED. Because of my ED I found FT and found several interesting threads that other guys have posted pictures of their cocks. With reading the threads I found out I like looking at other guys cocks and posting pics of mine and knowing other guys are looking at my cock.

As a youth (with raging erections) I had little interest or knowledge about how other boys' (men's) erections were or worked. As E.D. became apparant (in my 30's and onward) I started to wonder about the differences between me and other men. Perhaps inspired by my lovers' experiences/reactions/comments, but those women were almost universally polite about comparing my performance with other men, so I did not get a lot of feedback. Nor did I have information from other men to go on.

So the Asquared65's response resonates with me.

I am less fascinated with pictures of other men's penises than with how they function, particularly in coitus. Porn films are useless since they are seldom realistic (in my opinion - they are intended to be at the extreme of normal at least and more theatrical than most experiences in real life, much like the fight scenes in martial-arts and action movies-more artful and perfect that usually happens).

I have no desire to compete with other men's penile performance, but wonder where I fall in the performance spectrum. Or, maybe this is one of those things I would be better off not knowing.

In any event, getting back to something more akin to the OP's question, I have always wondered what my penis feels like to my lover(s). Fantaszing being the (female) recipient of my penis' attentions, I think, has made me more sensitive to my lovers' needs. So, yes, my practices changed a bit from my callow youth where my full desire was just to "get off". Now, partly by emotional maturity and a lot by the handicaps of E.D. I learned (by needfulness) to change my attention practices so as to better satisfy my lover(s).

If that change in (my) attention/perspective to a more bottom, recipient or even feminine point of view is widespread among men with E.D., maybe there is something to the O.P.'s question for many more of us than we realize.

Lost Sheep wrote:
Even moreso, could ED prompt a man to rethink his gender identity or sexual orientation?

Personally, and from my own self-examination, I doubt it, but I have read some thoughts that gave rise to my original question, however reoundabout the phrasing was.

Anonymous FT Member wrote:Are men with ED more inclined to a passive role or only into bottoming?

I have encountered older men online that seem to have like only one or two interests. They seem interested in giving oral and bottoming. Just wondering if there would be a correlation to the ED and their ages. Nothing against older the older fellas as I know many men of different ages have erectile difficulties.