I just give up.

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
Flavio
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Re: I just give up.

Postby Flavio » Mon Oct 19, 2020 5:16 am

I know how you feel but giving up is not an option. I have a small penis and that never stopped me. We really shouldn't worry too much about d***.

In my case, knowledge made all the difference in the world. The more you know about ED, the less stressful it will be. I wish I had started my research sooner but back in the 1990s there was very little information available and I didn't even know this was a medical condition. I just suffered in silence and did nothing about it. :(

ED is easily treatable, there are many solutions available today and we are privileged to be living in this time. And, believe me, 2021 is going to be a great year for men, with the release of Futura Medical's MED3000. This new gel will be a revolution in the treatment of ED.
Age 40. Psychogenic ED for over 20 years. Current regimen: Udenafil 200 mg, oral phentolamine mesylate 40 mg, Seredyn.

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Re: I just give up.

Postby Lost Sheep » Mon Oct 19, 2020 3:58 pm

needsomehope wrote:yes I would gladly give up one of my senses for an average to above average sized fully functioning dick. no sight, sound, or taste brings me ANY joy at this point. having a small and broken dick has ruined my life beyond repair. I'm tired and I hope to be permanently asleep soon.

Now you are talking! Look forward.

Now, as far as bargaining away one sensory faculty for a larger, functioning penis, keep in mind the principles of bargaining/negotiating. Determine what you want. The best you think you can get and the minimum you would settle for.

Now, bargaining for an automobile or buying a house is offer and counter-offer. Not so with a physical aspect of life. But some of the principles remain the same.

Remember that a small penis can give a woman orgasms and the man orgasms that are just as powerful as a large penis if proper techniques are employed. Are you willing to give up the effort to learn those techniques? Learning technique is a LOT less costly than giving up one of your senses. Are you willing to expend the effort? (And it is not all that difficult and the learning process can be a lot of fun with the right partner - are you willing to put in the effort to FIND the right partner?)

A lot of work, yes, but the rewards are FANTASTIC.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017
Prostate Cancer 2023
READ OLD THREADS-ask better questions -better understand answers
Be part of your medical team
Document pre-op size-photos and written records
Pre-op VED therapy helps. Post-op is another matter

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Re: I just give up.

Postby truckrglenn » Mon Nov 09, 2020 7:29 pm

Thanks for sharing. Sharing or getting the thoughts out of someone's head starts the process.

Your story is just one example of why this Country needs to legalize prostitution or sex workers. I'm a recovering addict and have known women from all walks of life. Never once did I hear a women who was in the sex trade complain about a man's penis being too small or not the perfect shape. They have complained about too large of a penis though.
Glenn
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October 6, 2020 - Dr. Hassan / Cool Springs, Tn

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Re: I just give up.

Postby Martin6469 » Fri Jan 01, 2021 2:30 pm

needsomehope: Learn how to lick a clit. Very simple. When your hand's in in her panties, forget about your penis, rub her clit for a minute, then pull 'em down, and lick her clit. All women go into ecstasy at this point because the clit's packed full of sensitive nerve endings. Keep licking and she'll have an orgasm. Some women take 5 minutes, some take 20 minutes, but keep licking. Put a finger or two in her vagina to simulate a penis. When she's recovered, she won't care about your penis; just ask her if she'll give you some help with it. Say something like, "It's kinda' small, and sometimes doesn't get stiff, but would you give me a hand job to get acquainted with it?" Your nervousness will recede once you admit to her that you have a problem.

I have first-hand knowledge of how low testosterone makes you depressed. This is easily and fully treatable and will be covered by Medicaid. You take synthetic testosterone in the form of a gel you rub on skin, a patch, or shots.

My penis is also small. I've never been able to give my wife an orgasm with it, in fact she says she can't feel much, and she's nostalgic about how her ex used to fill her, so we play with big dildoes. I hold one in her vagina and she masturbates to a big orgasm while fantasizing about him or some other guy that might cross her mind. I encourage her fantasies and this works very well: many mornings she gets up singing. We have the best relationship because we're both giving her orgasms in this way. You will eventually get to this stage with the right woman.
Age 78 in 2023. On testosterone replacement due to hypothalamus malfunction. (Attention depressed guys: low testosterone is a cause.) Healthy health nut but ED due to getting old. Like to keep enough cardiovascular ability to thrust for 30 min.

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Re: I just give up.

Postby hectorm64 » Sat Jan 02, 2021 11:08 pm

Hey Man,
I perfectly understand your frustration and sadness. I have ED all my life. Please don't give back. For now, buy a cheap vacuum and use it everyday for 10 to 15 minutes, before you use it heat a small wet towel in the microwave for 1 minute, them, put it in your penis, make sure it is not too hot for 2 to 3 minutes. It will help to open your veins in the corpora covernosa.
This practice will help you to keep your size, your penis healthy and stretch it, when you get ready for an implant a good surgeon could put a bigger cylinder, so you will have a bigger dick. Also, don't worry for having an small dick, an implant will give you an hard rock erection to have a lot fun, remember the implant will stay up as long as you want.
I am trying to get my implant sometime soon. I have been very depressed.
Stay safe, keep posting here, we will support each other.
57 yo, PHX, AZ. ED all my life.Used Viagra,Cialis,Trimix failed. Implanted AMS 700CX 21 cm +2 cm RTE on 03/11/2021. Dr Shawn Blick.
Pre/post-op size length 6.0"X 6.5" girth. Cycling at week 2,Sex at week 3.
Cycling full erected 1hr am, 1hr pm

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Re: I just give up.

Postby Minnscooter » Sun Jan 03, 2021 8:23 am

needsomehope wrote:yes, I can masturbate to orgasm. though I barely stay hard the moment my hand leaves my penis. I can't imagine ever even attempting anything with a woman again. I kinda doubt your story... how could someone with a 1.5 inch penis ever get up the nerve to show that to someone else? I'm not judging them. I just don't have that kind of courage.

I was completely limp and only about 2.5 inches soft but wife would rub her clit with head of my dick and we'd both get off and all I had to do was be there..of course this also stopped after menopause
72 MM married 48 years, live in Minnesota type 2 diabetes caused ed in my 40's went on trimix with great results but when wife had menopause sex got less and less so just wasn't cost effective so no sex since 2002.

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Re: I just give up.

Postby KenJ1947 » Sun Jan 03, 2021 3:43 pm

Minnscooter wrote:I was completely limp and only about 2.5 inches soft but wife would rub her clit with head of my dick and we'd both get off and all I had to do was be there..of course this also stopped after menopause


My wife went through menopause, two knee replacements, and a broken hip. No sex for a long time caused my ED, but earlier this year she said she was interested in sex. I did a lot to reverse ED work no success. The only sex left for us for now is oral. My tongue has given her many orgasms by just that touching of her clit. I have to masturbate to get my rocks off, but I'm heading to an implant as soon as possible.
Married 50+ years, 75, ED for 10 years.

Dr Mark Allen, Plano, TX. Surgery at Baylor, Scott and White Frisco, TX. AMS 700 CX MS, 24 cm + 2 cm RTEs x 2.4 cm tubes, 100 ml reservoir.

4 grandkids (son 25, daughter 23, son 21, daughter 7).


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