What Would You Have Done Different?

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Donnie1954 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 9:13 pm

Glad you are doing better brother. As far as spicing up our sex life. It ain't gonna happen. I even got a cock strap and silicone ring. I think it looks cool and feels good. She thinks it's ridiculous. So much for spice!
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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Larry10625 » Sun Sep 16, 2018 7:19 am

FishingTime67 wrote:
Larry10625 wrote:
FishingTime67 wrote:
Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl



So Carl, was the TPa a good thing for you or is that what caused you walking problems? Usually TPa is a godsend :)

Larry


It saved my life.. Actually the guy my wife stopped on the highway saved me .. We was on vacation in Georgia..He was a nurse and knew exactly what was happening to me..I was in the hospital for 17 days down there.

I still have balance issues at times.
Carl



Wow... it's bad when everyone but the doctor knows what's wrong and nobody suggests it to the incompetent doctor. :(

Larry
51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby FishingTime67 » Sun Sep 16, 2018 8:00 am

Larry10625 wrote:
FishingTime67 wrote:
Larry10625 wrote:

So Carl, was the TPa a good thing for you or is that what caused you walking problems? Usually TPa is a godsend :)

Larry


It saved my life.. Actually the guy my wife stopped on the highway saved me .. We was on vacation in Georgia..He was a nurse and knew exactly what was happening to me..I was in the hospital for 17 days down there.

I still have balance issues at times.
Carl



Wow... it's bad when everyone but the doctor knows what's wrong and nobody suggests it to the incompetent doctor. :(

Larry


Those are the was ones the in it for the wrong reason... $$$$$
I'm 51 new implant in Jan. 2018 with Titan one 24 cm no RTE,had issues with tubbing and fluid gathered around reservoir which cause deflation issues. Tubbing got kinked. Had total replacement with AMS CX 24cm 3rtes
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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby dg_moore » Sun Sep 16, 2018 9:01 am

FishingTime67 wrote:
dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.


Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl

Seems I'm lucky compared to you. relatively speaking. My initial physical deficits were pretty minor (severe dizziness and difficulty swallowing). The swallowing cleared up in a couple of days, and the dizziness became less severe but never went away. But as the years have worn on I have felt worse and worse despite attention from many docs, including the vertigo clinic at Johns Hopkins hospital in Baltimore and several neurologists. My stroke hit in my brainstem - several docs have remarked that I was the first person they ever knew of who survived a brainstem stroke. When I complained to my PCP about various problems he said, "well, 95% of people who had what you had are dead." That adds some perspective, I guess.
Dave, 75, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby FishingTime67 » Sun Sep 16, 2018 9:57 am

dg_moore wrote:
FishingTime67 wrote:
dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.


Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl

Seems I'm lucky compared to you. relatively speaking. My initial physical deficits were pretty minor (severe dizziness and difficulty swallowing). The swallowing cleared up in a couple of days, and the dizziness became less severe but never went away. But as the years have worn on I have felt worse and worse despite attention from many docs, including the vertigo clinic at Johns Hopkins hospital in Baltimore and several neurologists. My stroke hit in my brainstem - several docs have remarked that I was the first person they ever knew of who survived a brainstem stroke. When I complained to my PCP about various problems he said, "well, 95% of people who had what you had are dead." That adds some perspective, I guess.


Dave... Form perspective a stroke is a stroke don't matter how severe it effects each of us and everyone in our lifes. We handle it in different ways and learn to live with the effects of it.I had to tell myself daily and still do..... I am worth it my family is worth it!!!
Keep on going on!!

Take Care brother
Carl
I'm 51 new implant in Jan. 2018 with Titan one 24 cm no RTE,had issues with tubbing and fluid gathered around reservoir which cause deflation issues. Tubbing got kinked. Had total replacement with AMS CX 24cm 3rtes
Size 7 in. girth 6 erect

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby williamb » Sun Sep 16, 2018 3:15 pm

dg_moore wrote:If I'd known I was going to live this long I'd have taken better care of myself.
Isn't that the truth , I agree 200%
Another Dave
68 yr old, AMS CX 18 + 3 RTE, Oct 2015 by a Houston Doctor. Left with loss of length, Floppy Glans and pain, a very poor job. Revision in Dec 2016 by Dr Kramer, 21 + 3 1/2 RTE,Regained length, Glans supported and no pain.
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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Cigar56 » Sun Oct 07, 2018 6:20 pm

I got married at 25. Big mistake. That was 37 years ago and we are still married -- happily married except for sex. I didn't know who I was at 25, including sexually. I love erotic sex, including oral, but she hates oral and isn't erotic at all. I thought she would come around over time. Never did.

If I had to do things over again I would not have compromised on sex. Period. I would make sure through pre-marital counseling, long talks, etc., that I was getting the perfect sex partner for me. If I liked performing anal sex on a woman (I have no interest in that), then I would wait paitiently until I found a woman who was completely into that and still had all the wifey/mommy qualities I needed. I learned, painfully, over the years, that there are good women who can suck dick every day. I do feel I missed out on that.
62. Was under "active surveillance" for prostate cancer. Scheduled for prostate radiation -- Stereotactic Body Radiotherapy (SBRT) -- in December 2018. Considered implant for ED but decided to stay with injections.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Larry10625 » Sun Oct 07, 2018 7:39 pm

dg_moore wrote:
FishingTime67 wrote:
dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.


Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl

Seems I'm lucky compared to you. relatively speaking. My initial physical deficits were pretty minor (severe dizziness and difficulty swallowing). The swallowing cleared up in a couple of days, and the dizziness became less severe but never went away. But as the years have worn on I have felt worse and worse despite attention from many docs, including the vertigo clinic at Johns Hopkins hospital in Baltimore and several neurologists. My stroke hit in my brainstem - several docs have remarked that I was the first person they ever knew of who survived a brainstem stroke. When I complained to my PCP about various problems he said, "well, 95% of people who had what you had are dead." That adds some perspective, I guess.



Sorry for your shitty luck Dave... they fact that you beat the odds is NOT a good reason that skilled professionals missed text book signs of a stroke and you missed out on tPa. :(

Larry
51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby cristoph126 » Tue Nov 13, 2018 2:16 pm

I guess it's really personal because I have my the one and only and we are happy. Well, we had some experiments like a threesome with her female colleague (also her ex), sex with any type of drugs (except heroin). We even tried things like www.lady-era.net even though she has no problem with starting up, but it was an interesting experience anyway. But now we decided that's enough experimenting as we are getting older. I had a little more partners than you before her, but I don't think it made me happier. Because I don't even keep them in mind and I don't even want to compare her to them, because they don't have a chance :D. And having more that one partner at a time can be risky except if you are living in a town with more than 500K people. Sometimes I feel like shit for doing it, even though we are not together now, they were good people and didn't deserve to be cheated on. All the problems are starting from our minds, so try to keep your head clean from thoughts like that.
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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby AnotherOldMan » Fri Nov 16, 2018 4:01 pm

We added toys and things have gotten really hot and steamy


Agree 1000%. We started using toys in the '70's. Big clunky vibrators powered by 'D' batteries and sounding like chainsaws!
Modern sex toys are smaller, quieter, and more powerful. In addition there is a much wider variety available these day.
I have never understood some men's objections to using toys. :? Especially in a long term, committed relationship.
If the idea is more frequent sex and a much better response from your partner, try them until you find one that hits the jackpot! :D
74 years old, married 50+ years, wife 75 years old
Started using VED about 2 or 3 years ago.


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