What Would You Have Done Different?

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby newtoed » Fri Sep 14, 2018 3:53 pm

All of us dealing with ED realize the importance of our sexuality, because we lost some or all of our ability. Some of us lost all of his ability and still here, because mentally sexuality is still important to him.

I’m convinced that most of us who were fortunate to find remedy to our ED have more and more satisfying sex life than most men out there with normal abilities, because we have more drive and don’t take sex for granted.

I think about sex a lot and inevitably think about what would I have done differently in the past to improve my sexual life.

I got married way too early at 24. Had about 10 sexual partners and and about 2 committed relationships before got married. Knowing what I know today I would have had much more partners and much more relationship experience before marriage. I would have gone out more to pick up girls. I would have dated more than one girl at a time. I would have also got more things I wanted and fantasized about like: threesomes, rough sex, anal sex, bondage, toys, roleplays etc.

What would you have done differently?
Age 54, Single, Los Angeles. Stage 2 rectal cancer in 2013. Radiation, surgery, chemo. In remission for 5 years. Some ED before cancer, complete since. 2-3 units of Trimix 40/30/2 2-3 times a week since Feb/2017 with great success!

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby FishingTime67 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 9:05 am

Took the words right out of my mouth..
My wife has never been into those type of things like I have.
But over the past 9 months we have expanded our bedroom behavior and have added toys,lotions, lubes of all kinds of flavors.. (mine and hers).Our closet looks like a small display store...lol
Being implanted is a stress free sex life.. no waiting on pills to kick in, no messing with injections. No worrying if they will work and for how long..

It's always good to try to change things up from a routine sex life

Carl
I'm 51 new implant in Jan. 2018 with Titan one 24 cm no RTE,had issues with tubbing and fluid gathered around reservoir which cause deflation issues. Tubbing got kinked. Had total replacement with AMS CX 24cm 3rtes
Size 7 in. girth 6 erect

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby dg_moore » Sat Sep 15, 2018 10:48 am

If I'd known I was going to live this long I'd have taken better care of myself.
Dave, 75, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Larry10625 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 11:05 am

dg_moore wrote:If I'd known I was going to live this long I'd have taken better care of myself.



Dave, besides ending your sex life, what deficits were you left with after your stroke? Did you get the TPa or was it too late?

Larry
51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby dg_moore » Sat Sep 15, 2018 3:42 pm

You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.
Dave, 75, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby FishingTime67 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 4:02 pm

dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.


Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl
I'm 51 new implant in Jan. 2018 with Titan one 24 cm no RTE,had issues with tubbing and fluid gathered around reservoir which cause deflation issues. Tubbing got kinked. Had total replacement with AMS CX 24cm 3rtes
Size 7 in. girth 6 erect

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Larry10625 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 4:48 pm

FishingTime67 wrote:Took the words right out of my mouth..
My wife has never been into those type of things like I have.
But over the past 9 months we have expanded our bedroom behavior and have added toys,lotions, lubes of all kinds of flavors.. (mine and hers).Our closet looks like a small display store...lol
Being implanted is a stress free sex life.. no waiting on pills to kick in, no messing with injections. No worrying if they will work and for how long..

It's always good to try to change things up from a routine sex life

Carl



100% agree. We added toys and things have gotten really hot and steamy :)

Larry
51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Larry10625 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 4:52 pm

dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.



OH MY GOD Dave... I am soooooo sorry. If you had got TPa right away you would probably be perfect right now... well, all but your pecker but, with the implant, almost perfect. Did you sue or are you considering it? Afterall, she has ruined your life...

Larry
51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby Larry10625 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 4:54 pm

FishingTime67 wrote:
dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.


Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl



So Carl, was the TPa a good thing for you or is that what caused you walking problems? Usually TPa is a godsend :)

Larry
51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: What Would You Have Done Different?

Postby FishingTime67 » Sat Sep 15, 2018 6:36 pm

Larry10625 wrote:
FishingTime67 wrote:
dg_moore wrote:You know how Ali rails about Dr. Milam? I yell even louder about the third rate quack I saw at the local emergency facility when I had my stroke. She missed it completely and suggested I call my PCP in the morning. So it was over 18 hours before I had competent medical attention. When I called my doc and described my symptoms he said "MY GOD - GET TO THE ER IMMEDIATELY!" I did, but it was too late for effective intervention.

I have constant vertigo, spells of nausea, severe tinnitus and general malaise. My life has not been worth living for a very long time. But I soldier on nonetheless.


Dave..

I'm sorry to hear you're having to go through this.
I as well have had a stroke an was TPA'd. Ending up in wheelchair.
I told myself I wasn't dieing in a chair. I worked my ass off in rehab after a year i was able to start water rehab and finally got to where I could walk with a walker and never looked backed. Now I'm cane free. Yea I still has spells where I fall an stuff.
The worst was speech and having to drink the thickening nectar in all my drinks.
I made it!!
Message me if ya ever want to talk.

Carl



So Carl, was the TPa a good thing for you or is that what caused you walking problems? Usually TPa is a godsend :)

Larry


It saved my life.. Actually the guy my wife stopped on the highway saved me .. We was on vacation in Georgia..He was a nurse and knew exactly what was happening to me..I was in the hospital for 17 days down there.

I still have balance issues at times.
Carl
I'm 51 new implant in Jan. 2018 with Titan one 24 cm no RTE,had issues with tubbing and fluid gathered around reservoir which cause deflation issues. Tubbing got kinked. Had total replacement with AMS CX 24cm 3rtes
Size 7 in. girth 6 erect


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