Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

[Hugo C]

After having a Manta vibrator for a couple of months , I think it is amazing . My wife
likes to tease me with it . I have had great orgasms sometimes with a moderately
flaccid penis. My wife got me so wound up the other day with the manta I had to ask
her to stop, we had vaginal sex for the first time in 5 months after surgery .

[jimmyd24]

I have a Venus 2000.
It's a bit pricey, but it was the only way I could get off after trimix stopped working.

[Pappys@@53]

I am new here. My prostrate was removed about 3 years ago. Have some success with intercourse but my penis does not get very large or hard and lose it sometimes. I have tried a pump and ring but the ring will not stay down at the base so i lose the erection. Why wont it stay in place? I have taken tadlafil but it doesnt always help and end up with bad headache the next day. Has anyone found any natural things thart help?

[bldoink]

...Have some success with intercourse but my penis does not get very large or hard and lose it sometimes.

If you're saying you're doing that good with no pills or other aids I'd think a good novelty/sex shop cock ring worn around your shaft behind the boys might be worth a try. See the "Cock Ring" thread in the "Members Only" sub-forum: https://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=21302
Until you find the ring(s) that work best for you expect some rejects.

I have tried a pump and ring but the ring will not stay down at the base so i lose the erection. Why wont it stay in place?

Unless you need the pump to get it up you may find that a novelty/sex shop cock ring worn on your shaft behind the boys will stay in place and may provide the boost you need.

I have taken tadlafil but it doesnt always help and end up with bad headache the next day....

Have you tried Viagra (Sildenafil)? I don't get along well with tadalafil and I have milder side effects with Viagra.

Good luck.

[Pappys@@53]

Trying to find something different from the pills. They all can have bad side effects. Don't want todo shots or emplants.

[brian188]

Six months after surgery I found that I can masturbate my limp dick pretty good. It just took a long time to figure out how to stimulate myself to gain the highest level of arousal. I learned to just take my time getting myself "excited" enough to where my regular stroking up and down would bring me to orgasm and climax. I would just lay back and play with myself for a long time enjoying touching my cock and balls, and thinking of sexy things. Even limp, after a while I would find the sensation of touching myself creating more and more arousal. Sometimes it would take 20 or 30 minutes before I felt I was excited enough to start jerking myself like to old days. I will always concentrate on the head of my cock, and especially my corona which has always been my most sensitive part of my dick. I also found adding some nipple play, or anal play would heighten my level of arousal. An interesting note is that I've discovered that I can reach orgasm several times ( even with a softie ) before reaching my "point-of-no-return" where ejaculation is inevitable. Just like before I get that feeling that I am going to shoot my load and nothing will stop it. The tightness in my anus........the PC muscle getting real tight.........and then the rhythmic contractions during climax. Yes ................ my cock starting to pump away and the sensation of cumming, but just no cum.

Yup...........I can jerk off just like before. Just no hard-on to work with. And ............ it may be my imagination but I think my orgasms and climax are more powerful than before. One think is for sure, I can enjoy myself longer having more time needed to get myself off.

Oh ................... plenty of lube helps too.

[still_crazy]

Since my RALP (non nerve sparing) nearly a year ago, using a vibrator while flaccid is the only way I've been able to achieve an orgasm. I can get a great erection using injections, or a pump and a contraction ring, but the sensitivity is no longer there to reach a climax. Using the vibrator, while flaccid, gets me over the edge to a great release. I work it up and down the penis, but eventually concentrate on the frenulum area to reach the pleasure peak. Some water-based lube helps.
The Amazon link to the vibrator (G-Spot Vibrator): https://a.co/d/02SenRF

I've tried some of the men-specific vibrators, but none work as well as this simple, inexpensive one that can serve many uses.

[marlow13]

I had robotic prostate surgery four months ago, and it's been interesting learning about my new dick. Masturbating used to take a few minutes basically one-handed; it now takes quite a bit longer and both hands -- one at the base of my cock and one focusing on the head. My nerves are in relatively good shape, but the ED is there. It helps if I pump for a while to get a semi and then take it from there. I used to masturbate to photos and stories, but now it's mostly videos. I read a message from a guy on another site who said he was fixated on cumshots in porn now that he produced none of his own, and I'm pretty much in the same situation. I can get it on with my wife with the help of Viagra, the pump and a cock ring, but frankly, it does more for her than it does for me;my joy in that is in making her reach orgasm(s). Masturbation seems a lot more pleasurable.

I understand this obsessions with cumshots after my prostate surgery. I'm glad to find out its not just me.

[Innerlight]

Where to begin? I've always considered myself highly sexed. In reality, probably no more than most fellas. I’ve just been aware of my orgasmic capability since a young age. I experienced my first orgasm (spontaneous) at age six while attempting to climb to the top of our backyard swing-set. The tension in my little body from having my legs clamped around the pole and trying to pull myself to the top triggered that first orgasm. As I got a little older, I learned how to masturbate and thoroughly enjoyed sex both with my wife and solo.

Age 60 brought changes to my health. I was diagnosed with kidney cancer (right kidney & ureter) and it was removed. Fortunately caught early and no lymph node involvement. My urologist said "You are probably going to get bladder cancer, I've seen it time and again". Six months later during scope examination he discovered the first of many subsequent bladder tumors. These tumors look like little pink broccoli's growing inward into the bladder. Each time I saw him there would be additional tumors and he would burn them off (TURBT). After 5 years of treatment with the disease creeping ever lower and producing scarring in the bladder neck and with bladder cancer invading my prostate, my urologist said "enough is enough", you need to have your bladder removed. So at age 65, I have cystoprostectomy performed. Bladder, Prostate and Seminal vessels all removed. Fortunately the cancer never spread so my sex nerves were spared. This procedure is one of the toughest. Having exercised all of my life, I was able to return to exercise and a somewhat normal life within several months.

So, here I am several months post-surgery and trying to regain my sex life. I began getting partial erections and could bring myself to orgasm. When one has their bladder removed, most (but not all of) your urethra is also removed. They leave a “urethral remnant”, basically from the Cowpers (bulbourethral) gland to the tip of the penis (Glans). I was actually quite pleased because upon orgasm, I could still squirt a tiny bit of liquid out via my Cowpers gland. During my recovery, I began using a vacuum pump (prescribed by doctor) to achieve full erections and preserve penile tissue. Fast forward six months. I was regularly using the pump. I pumped it up and blood came out of my penis. My doctor had previously warned me that any discharge could indicate a tumor in the urethra. These are dangerous because they can quickly spread to surrounding tissue and survival odds are not good. Got right in to see urologist. He scopes me and says “I see a tumor, what do you want to do?” The choice was take a biopsy and have it analyzed or schedule immediate surgery to remove the urethral remnant. Surgery was immediately scheduled. Going into surgery the surgeon warned me that “You’ll never get another erection”. Ok, just do it. I don’t want to die. Very painful surgery but again, I recovered. Interestingly, the tumor turned out to be benign. The urologist couldn’t believe my good luck, if you want to call it that.

So, if you’ve read this far, I will discuss how I masturbate with a completely limp dick. I had discovered in my 20’s that I could have an orgasm by simply stimulating my nipples. I didn’t do this very often and as I reached my 30’s, the ability to orgasm in this manner faded. As I recovered from my urethral resection, I found that I was still horny but that penile stimulation wasn’t enough. I began experimenting with a combination of nipple stimulation combined with penile stimulation using a vibrator. I chose a “We-Vibe Tango X” which cost me $79. Well worth the money. To masturbate, I place a large elastic wrist band (like the ones promoting cancer awareness etc.) around my penis and scrotum. I then place a smaller elastic band around my penis and scrotum and an identical elastic band around my scrotum only. The smaller Elastic bands are silicon bands that come in colors and are usually used by females to tie their hair in a pony. Anyway, the large wrist band holds my penis and scrotum firmly in place. The other two are used to hold the vibrator firmly in place against my penis. In this way I can stimulate my penis while leaving my hands free to stimulate my nipples. If I want to stimulate the underside of my penis, I slip the vibrator under the hair band around my scrotum with the end of the vibrator resting on my scrotum and testicles. If I want to stimulate the top of my penis, I slip the vibrator under the hair band encircling both my penis and scrotum with the vibrator end towards my belly. I know many men will scoff at a male stimulating his nipples and think that it’s too effeminate or that his nipples simply have no feeling. You have to work at this technique and all people, male and females should be able to experience sexual pleasure via their nipples.. Once you’ve awakened your nipples, through practice, you can achieve mind blowing, full body, orgasms (if combined with penile stimulation). I certainly do!

My wife is 70 and has lost interest in sex. I have explained to her how we can have sex together, especially if she stimulates my nipples. She shows little interest even though I am more than willing to give her head (cunnilungus). I don’t think she can wrap her head around my new sexual needs. So I’m on my own sexually these days. Just turned 75 in June and I’m still horny and sexual. The “means” has changed but the pleasure is still intact. Happy wanking to all!!

Ps…..I regularly massage my penis to make sure it is receiving blood flow. Lack of blood flow will cause your member to waste away to nothing.