Talk with the Wife went well

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
Wiggles123
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Wiggles123 » Tue Sep 06, 2022 3:56 pm


That's where we've been at for years. I've been through pills and injections to enable me to pleasure her. It has always been about her orgasms. No matter how I pleasure her, through oral, fingers or penetration, reciprocation has not been one of her traits. I always have to ask (beg?) for any touching or oral. I guess that's what I'm looking to change the most.
As I'm getting older and my stamina is not what it used to be, hitting the big O takes a lot of energy. To be able to lay back and be pleasured to orgasm is a fantasy I've had for quite some time.
I won't push for anal if she objects, not a biggie. I've tried numerous things over our years, toys, dildos, different positions, nothing seems to be to her liking. I did introduce her to a clit vibrator many years ago, and now it gets used every time. As far as a therapy session, she would probably not open up enough to make a difference.



OG, that is why I tell my children to takew their time and choose wisely. Had you found out that she is a pillow princess you might have chosen better.
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Old Guy » Wed Sep 07, 2022 9:01 am

Guess it's time to toss in the towel. Damn, she had a work accident yesterday and blew out her right knee. Spent the night in the ER, she's on crutches, and looks like a knee replacement is in the cards.
All I can say is it's a good thing for toys. Not the same but keeps the boys in control.
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Spontaneous1 » Wed Sep 07, 2022 10:32 am

Old Guy, before she gets her entire knee replaced have her check into the new procedure they're doing. If they're able they can replace the meniscus/cartilage part with a new artificial one. I just got told I'm eligible without going through a total replacement. Mine is bone on bone and I'm glad I waited, all my other doc wanted to do was replace the whole knee, I love my new doctor.
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Sep 07, 2022 11:04 pm

So sorry to hear about your wife's knee. I know a few people who have had knee replacements and thank God for them. But then, they lived with slowly deteriorating knees for years. Getting a dysfunctional knee in a single day is not something that allows one to gradually accept that reality.

Praying for your wife's swift recovery. I have heard that new developments in knee repair have been used in recent years.

But on a lighter note, at least now you can take comfort with the knowledge that you both will be implanted. :D
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Old Guy » Thu Sep 08, 2022 8:55 am

Spontaneous1 and Lost Sheep, thanks for your kind replies.
Her knee has been bad for years. Almost ten years ago doc said it was time for a total. She's seen maybe four knee surgeons since, each had a different opinion, and she didn't like any of them. She's had the injections twice, last time just a few months ago done under a scope so they can see where the juice is going. Also gave her a new knee brace to offset the pressure from one side to another. Doesn't seem either has helped.
So, she is the director of a childcare facility. One child ran off the playground, she chased, said her knee cracked as she ran around the corner. I'm sure her knee is a mess since she has hobbled along on it for so long. Not only the knee joint itself, but connecting tissue, muscles and tendons are probably a mess too. Recovery is going to be tough and long I fear.
The only solution I see is a total replacement. Lucky my background was medical, helping people after surgeries like this. I know once she commits and has it done and heals up, she'll be a lot happier.
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Willis911 » Fri Sep 09, 2022 6:27 am

I love the "both now implanted" joke...you have to use that!
we wish her a speedy recovery. following here with you, Old Guy!
perhaps the focus off of things for a moment while she recovers is what's needed, then...hit her up again.
I recently heard a guy tell a girl it was his job to chase and hers to reject! hahaha
i couldnt believe he said it to her LOL
just another mystery of life but, you are in a position now to chase her, thanks to the implant! good luck.
and great attitude!
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Mazzio » Sun Sep 25, 2022 4:01 am

Women like men with ED because they don't cheat.
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Old Guy » Fri Nov 18, 2022 4:21 pm

Long overdue update. The wife's knee is feeling better after a month of Physical Therapy. She is still not ready for a surgery. A previous surgery went way longer than it should have, and she has side effects from it. Keeps her hesitant.
However, I was able to arrange our over-sized chair and footrest with a box extending out to rest her bad leg on. She sits her bottom near the end of the footrest then lays back which positions her so I can kneel on the floor and be right between her legs. This has been working out well. She can still buzz her clit while I'm pumping away. She's had several powerful orgasms in that chair. One night I got a "I've never cum so hard on your cock!" :D
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby mrksman » Fri Dec 16, 2022 6:59 pm

Old Guy wrote:Long overdue update. The wife's knee is feeling better after a month of Physical Therapy. She is still not ready for a surgery. A previous surgery went way longer than it should have, and she has side effects from it. Keeps her hesitant.
However, I was able to arrange our over-sized chair and footrest with a box extending out to rest her bad leg on. She sits her bottom near the end of the footrest then lays back which positions her so I can kneel on the floor and be right between her legs. This has been working out well. She can still buzz her clit while I'm pumping away. She's had several powerful orgasms in that chair. One night I got a "I've never cum so hard on your cock!" :D


Any further updates?
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Re: Talk with the Wife went well

Postby Old Guy » Sun Dec 18, 2022 1:26 pm

mrksman wrote:
Any further updates?


Not really but she is back to tolerating being on the bad knee so we can do doggy again. Still used the chair a couple times with similar results. She's on vacation for two weeks and I'm pushing for several fun times.
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