AmansinCali wrote:This subject came up this morning in my household before we had sex, my wife is 75 and I am 77. I use tri-mix so none of lovemaking is spontaneous. Having coffee first thing, she said, "Do you want to play today?" I said, "Well that was romantic." Then she explained in words that I and all you guys know, but haven't heard, "I don't get horny like you do, I don't have balls and a pecker talking to me, but I know how edgy you get when you don't have sex a couple times a week." Then, "I don't get horny until you start playing with me."
We never talked much about sex, just did it when the mood struck; however, since I have been on tri-mix for a little over a year it has almost forced us to speak more openly. As ED settled in I began to assure her that it was not her fault, it was just the way nature works, but I told her I would get it fixed. I began to share with her some of the stories I read on FT and how some women just don't seem to care about their husband's needs. I read one rather dramatic post to her once by a sex starved husband and she said, "That is just plain cruel."
We are having the best sex of our lives and I know it is from speaking more openly about our sexual relationship.
As it has been pointed out over and over again on FT, getting turned on and satisfied is about 90% in the brain. Those who recommend starting a verbal conversation about why you need sex more than her I think are on the right track. Open up and get it on the table.
Your testimonhy moved me deeply, sir. You have a treasure in such a caring, sensitive and aware wife. Congratulations on finding her, cultivating such a relationship with her and listening with a hearing heart.
Lost Sheep with utmost respect. Thank you for sharing.