Get over it

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
beachbum
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Get over it

Postby beachbum » Mon Jul 11, 2016 7:45 pm

Ok. I’m putting in two places. Looking for thoughts on some things that are really bothering me. Or at least giving me trouble. I’ve had ED for several years now. Last time I tried to have sex with my wife was over 8 or 9 years ago. I had taken a Viagra and it didn’t work at all. That was very hard on me and even though my wife played it off as nothing I know it hurt her too. So we just let it go over time never really tried again. Me, I didn’t want to fail again her I don’t know, we never talked about it. Throughout this time I was s able to get enough of an erection to relieve myself so that became my sex life. But then the erections became harder to get and didn't last so I would have to hurry before it went away. So now I can barely get an erection and it doesn't last long enough to finish. I'm getting very depressed by this. And no NOT suicidal just depressed. Moody, wanting to be alone more and more and wishing things were different. It's all I think about anymore. I have seen my Dr and he is having me trying Viagra again even though I said it didn't work before and it doesn't work now. I use a pump daily, mainly to try to maintain size. It will barely do that and is useless for anything else. So today my wife finally asked want was wrong with me and I told her it was the obsession with my ED. She started to laugh but stopped. She thought it might have been something else. Any way we talked and it was basically she was more than OK without sex and I needed to get over it. Well I really don't want to get over it, I want it fixed. I am very seriously think of talking to my Dr. about an implant. I don’t know, maybe she would change her mind if I had a working dick again, maybe not. But at least I would and could get an erection again. My question for the group is: would do it? Would you have an implant? Or would you, as my wife put it, just get over it?
71. ED for about 10+ years to one extent or another. Implanted 9/14/2016 AMS CX 18+3 Fl/ Ky

charlesr
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Re: Get over it

Postby charlesr » Tue Jul 26, 2016 6:51 pm

Hi beachbum!

Read my reply in "Implants." I didn't know that you also posted here. Plain and simple: Get an implant! Trust me, we didn't think it would change anything, but we went from a 60's sexless couple to a bunch of twenty-year old's now that everything is not only working again, but better than it has ever been.

I'm not a paid spokesman or anything. It took me four months to stop saying "What the hell was I thinking" after the implant operation. But after the pain went away, it became apparent that it was the best decision I had made in twenty years. Just do it, beachbum!!!
Born 1951. Radical Robotic Prostatectomy on October 6, 2013. Bionic with Titan Touch with Bioflex Zero Degree 18cm w/ (1) rte Implant, Infrapubic, on July 13, 2015.

beachbum
Posts: 171
Joined: Wed Dec 30, 2015 5:50 pm
Location: Fla. / Ky.

Re: Get over it

Postby beachbum » Wed Jul 27, 2016 8:49 pm

Thanks
71. ED for about 10+ years to one extent or another. Implanted 9/14/2016 AMS CX 18+3 Fl/ Ky


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