Need to vent

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
Canadian_patient
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Need to vent

Postby Canadian_patient » Sun Feb 21, 2016 8:41 pm

Hey guys,


Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse-- (I could hardly get erections a few months ago)-- now, things have gotten 2x even worse. A month ago, I got mad that I couldn't get hard 100% so I stroked my unit too hard during masturbation and ended up hurting myself. Well, guess what. Seems that now that pain is PERMANENT... hooray. When I get boners now, it hurts me a bit at the same spot. Plus my boners have a different "feel" now... I dunno how to describe it but it's like there's much more pressure on the tip of the glans/frenulum now.

I'm actually SCARED to get boners now. I'm even more scared to get an implant because I'm scared of the fact that this same pain could be amplified.

So now boners are almost impossible to get. I do get them in the morning (thanks to daily 5mg cialis), but that's about it... when I'm aroused, I get a semi-boner that hurts me (a bit) and I can't get it to 100% unless I'm lucky. Also, I noticed that my unit stretches differently during arousal now... it is completely crooked and gets straigthened up at 100%... before, that would never happen.

Man, I feel SO MAD at myself for that DUMB mistake of stroking too hard. But I can't believe that ONE bad move could cause this type of permanent soreness/pain. Right now I'm furious, I punched the wall hundreds of time... and the worst part is that I can't do nothing about it. I'm seeing my uro next week but he doesn't take me seriously.

Honestly, I'm giving up soon. Can't believe that this BS could happen to me so easily.

End of rant...

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Re: Need to vent

Postby David_R » Sun Feb 21, 2016 8:58 pm

If your urologist doesn't take you seriously, find another urologist. You should not have to live like this.
Age 69. Prostatectomy in 2000. My urologist is Dr. Marc Siegelbaum of Univ. of Md. St. Joseph Med. Ctr. in Baltimore suburb of Towson. (LGX, and after regular inflating I regained my original length and girth.)

alibaba
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Re: Need to vent

Postby alibaba » Sun Feb 21, 2016 9:40 pm

Agreed on finding another doc if you are getting no help. Fractures are something you may need to go to emergency to get prompt care rather than wait weeks for an appointment. You may have a fracture. Some heal on their own, some need repair, some docs will give you meds to reduce your boners for a month or so to let it heal. Find a doc that will help and gives a damn. If you have to stroke the thing up and demonstrate then do it. If the doc is not up to that and it is what it takes, then why is he a dick doc?
LGX 21cm .Milam 01/13/16. Horror; both service and surgical outcome. hated infrapubic installation. Kramer revision 03/01/17. 22cm Titan +1.5cm extender. Those who think their opinion is the only one that matters are a danger to themselves and others.

PFracture

Re: Need to vent

Postby PFracture » Mon Feb 22, 2016 1:50 am

In Canada, finding another urologist, means going through a referral from your family doctor, or GP at the walkin clinic, so it takes take. Good luck with this, and if you have the financial possibility, why not seek care on the states? You can get help much faster at reputable doctors, if necessary.

Canadian_patient
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Re: Need to vent

Postby Canadian_patient » Mon Feb 22, 2016 2:56 am

PFracture wrote:In Canada, finding another urologist, means going through a referral from your family doctor, or GP at the walkin clinic, so it takes take. Good luck with this, and if you have the financial possibility, why not seek care on the states? You can get help much faster at reputable doctors, if necessary.


Yeah exactly. Plus, it takes 3-4 months to get one appointment with my uro. And yes I'm considering the states, especially Dr Eid

Canadian_patient
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Re: Need to vent

Postby Canadian_patient » Mon Feb 22, 2016 2:59 am

alibaba wrote:Agreed on finding another doc if you are getting no help. Fractures are something you may need to go to emergency to get prompt care rather than wait weeks for an appointment. You may have a fracture. Some heal on their own, some need repair, some docs will give you meds to reduce your boners for a month or so to let it heal. Find a doc that will help and gives a damn. If you have to stroke the thing up and demonstrate then do it. If the doc is not up to that and it is what it takes, then why is he a dick doc?


Fracture? Wow that's very scary, I didn't expect that :O

How can you repair a fracture? With an implant I guess?

Canadian_patient
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Re: Need to vent

Postby Canadian_patient » Mon Feb 22, 2016 3:00 am

David_R wrote:If your urologist doesn't take you seriously, find another urologist. You should not have to live like this.


Good point, I was considering that but it's hard to find another one here-- I'm considering visiting Dr Eid maybe...

PFracture

Re: Need to vent

Postby PFracture » Mon Feb 22, 2016 5:11 am

I mean... How exactly did you hurt yourself? Did you hear any pop sound? Bruising, hematoma? Did you loose your erection when you hurt yourself? Plus, you contradict yourself on the explanation of your incident and symptoms if you read it thoroughly. At least to me.

Also, if you really wanna diagnose the exact causes of your ed there's tests you can make...

Canadian_patient
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Re: Need to vent

Postby Canadian_patient » Mon Feb 22, 2016 11:38 am

PFracture wrote:I mean... How exactly did you hurt yourself? Did you hear any pop sound? Bruising, hematoma? Did you loose your erection when you hurt yourself? Plus, you contradict yourself on the explanation of your incident and symptoms if you read it thoroughly. At least to me.

Also, if you really wanna diagnose the exact causes of your ed there's tests you can make...


I didn't hear a popping sound but I did feel a sting that was painful and that pain made me lose my erection..

No bruising or hematoma...

PFracture

Re: Need to vent

Postby PFracture » Mon Feb 22, 2016 1:40 pm

Even if you did fracture your penis, mildly, after all this time, there is nothing you can do to repair it, besides leaving your penis alone for 6 to 8 weeks if you haven't done so. Repair for a fracture is surgical, done after diagnosis at the er, and it has a time window of 24 to 48 hours. After that, nobody touches you to "repair any tear you night have done". That was my experience and also, based on what I read about it on so many sources.

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