Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
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Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

Postby Canadian_patient » Wed Jul 15, 2015 3:10 am

Hi guys,

So yeah, I've had this problem since early 2014. Worst part of it? It happened overnight. At the time, I was going to the gym 4 times per week and my personal "trainer" (can't even call him that anymore) recommended an "all in" type of protein shake. I took it for a month and my erections disappeared overnight-- and never came back ever since. I can get hard when lying down or sitting down, but that's it-- once I stand up, I lose the wood instantly. I don't know what could've caused this. Anyhow, after nagging my doctor for a while, he sent me to this uro who will schedule a doppler exam for me in the upcoming weeks. Really nervous but for now I'm on daily 5mg Cialis, which works, but not to my full satisfaction.

But meanwhile... I got fired at my job because I couldn't concentrate on my work (because of this problem). My best friends all have girlfriends and I feel like dying when I hang out with them because I know that they have great sex with their girlfriends every night-- and when they want to hook me up with one of their friends, I always try to find a cheesy excuse not to get with her. One time, my friend tried to hook me up with this HOT babe that he knew-- his girlfriend's best friend-- and I denied her. I still feel the pain of that decision today. Every day I see beautiful women and I just feel like dying just by looking at them. Oh, and to top it all off, I can't find another job anymore (and I've been looking like crazy).

Anyways, I try to keep a positive mindset-- but it's SOO HARD. Can you guys recommend anything to do or read to help me get through this? Thanks.

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Re: Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

Postby Funny9097 » Fri Aug 07, 2015 6:47 pm

Hi, how old are you if I may ask?

I'm 29 and dealing with a similar problem. I mentally 'feel' like I want to have sex but physically, because of ED, the erections aren't there.

I had a similar almost 'overnight' experience. I was smoking marijunana at the time (frequently enough like every other day) and attributed this overnight loss of erection quality/circulation and the libido that comes with it to that, initially.

I'm also in Canada and finding this problem very difficult to cope with. So many lost experiences with women. Same stuff.

Also, Cialis works but not to my total satisfaction. Constantly flirt with the idea of getting an implant but given that oral meds kind of work it's tough to make that leap or even know if it would be the right decision.

My best suggestion is to do other things to get your mind off of it. Also, I pray to you that an ultrasound reveals something but in my case that didn't happen. As Dr. Kramer (an implant surgeon in the US put it) you go from Oral to Vacuum / Injection to Implant - seldom does ED that hasn't dissipated for months/years get better any other way.

Please let us know if you have success with other methods as I'm pretty desperate too. Also, I did take some Pycnogenol and L Arginine as a substitute for Cialis and found it somewhat effective as well.

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Re: Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

Postby joe456 » Fri Oct 14, 2016 6:11 pm

Don't waste your life guys get an implant It well cost you around 6000 dollars in Canada This from a other canadian speaking here .

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Re: Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

Postby wantingmore » Sun Jan 29, 2017 10:54 am

I got an implant at 55 God I wish I had done it a long time ago

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Re: Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

Postby Bjones » Sun Feb 12, 2017 4:50 am

My ED has caused a host of problems, depression being the main one..I have lost out on many possibly great experiences with women due to this problem..this makes me quite depressed when I think about, experiences that I can't go back and enjoy, wasted time..having ED also makes me feel not even like a man at times, my self identity is distorted..plus, my friends and even family can't understand why I don't pursue women or even accept advances from the women that show interest..they know I have had no legit excuses in many cases..this causes a great deal of anxiety in social situations..it also makes it very hard to relate with other guys..

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Re: Lost the will to do anything because of this problem...

Postby Donnie1954 » Sun Feb 12, 2017 6:26 am

We here on FT have been where you are now. :( Find a good compassionate Urologist, check out our stories. Ask us anything. We are here for you. :) :)
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