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I have posted off and on here for the past 5 years at least. I’m now 25. I can occasionally have sex with my current GF, but we don’t do it more than once a week sometimes twice. I also feel nothing mentally during this, so I have no idea what my issue is. I know I’m a straight male and what I’m attracted to. I don’t know if I permanently fried my brain as a young kid with the internet, but I’ve tried NoFap before for months with no real change. I’ve had times of coping well, following suggestions from here to focus on other things and communicate openly with a partner. However now I’m being flooded with fears again of having to fake enjoyment of sex for the remainder of my life, as well as not being able to hold onto a relationship while friends and getting married and having kids. I can’t get all of these moments out of my head of times I could’ve experienced pure, young love as a teenager but didn’t. Not because a girl didn’t like me but because even from a young age I had this issue. There’s only so many mind games I can play to convince myself I’m content with this situation. Glad to hear from whoever is still on here

My favorite sex advisor, Dan Savage (www.savage.love), handles questions like yours. He discusses asexual people from time to time. You might look through his archive, which goes back to 1999, and put your question to him if you don't find what you're looking for. (He used to be free to read in the alternative newspapers, but the website now charges - I think it's $25/year.)