Hitting a wall.

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
Anonymous FT Member
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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby Anonymous FT Member » Fri Jul 15, 2022 10:31 pm

westerntown wrote:out of everything i said, the small line where I sound pretentious is the one you decided to absorb? what about the part where i mentioned "I have felt everything I am ever going to feel." these toxins and chemicals you speak... obese men breathe them in on a daily basis and still can get great erections and have sex. I know because i have family members that relate. This is not deduced down to our "Air" or "water" man. Im sorry to say


No I can completely relate as I read your whole post. I've hit a wall myself. When you say everything checks out in your hormones, and you are eating well and exercising that kind of makes me wonder if you have the psychogenic component of ED. From what I pick up here on the forums, the psychogenic issue is very common. When I mentioned toxins and stuff we are exposed to all the time I didn't mean that was solely to blame for your troubles. The obese men you know aren't exactly a picture of health, so who knows what it affecting them. Everbody is different and ED don't hit everybody at the exact same time. Did you ever read what BPA does to men? Do you know where BPA is? It's like all around us because of all the plastic crap.

You describe injuring yourself and causing hourglass shape. Does your hourglass shape stay that shape, or does your erection fill on out to normal? As far as semen goes. Not sure why you would have watery semen if your health checks out okay. Are you using any products or supplements that might cause it?

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby westerntown » Mon Jul 18, 2022 1:33 am

1. I do not have psychogenic ed. I have scarring in the penis, corporal fibrosis to be specific.

2.the hourglass shape fills out if i get erect, but the erection is wobbly and soft and feels like a glove filled with water.

3. i only take l citruline right now, and in the last 4 months.
Late 2020, penile injury. Hard flaccid like symptoms since. Flaccid Hourglassing. always turtled. Sever loss of rigidity. Unable to have penetrative sex with girlfriend. Cialis does not help. 21yo, Ca

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby westerntown » Mon Jul 18, 2022 1:35 am

Spontaneous1 wrote:Hey my friend, I'm glad you're lifting and eating well, that helps a lot with depression. I understand what you're saying about your injury so when you masturbate now I would go easy. Do not squeeze your penis, and always use lube, no dry masturbation. Have you tried using a constriction ring with the VED, that will allow you to hold the blood in your penis while you have PIV sex, or even masturbation, just don't leave it on longer than 25 minutes. Thay say 30 minutes, but why push it.


I dont masturbate. not pleasurable. penis is wobbly and soft when hard, and heavily desensitized.
Late 2020, penile injury. Hard flaccid like symptoms since. Flaccid Hourglassing. always turtled. Sever loss of rigidity. Unable to have penetrative sex with girlfriend. Cialis does not help. 21yo, Ca

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby Anonymous FT Member » Mon Jul 18, 2022 11:39 am

westerntown wrote:1. I do not have psychogenic ed. I have scarring in the penis, corporal fibrosis to be specific.

2.the hourglass shape fills out if i get erect, but the erection is wobbly and soft and feels like a glove filled with water.

3. i only take l citruline right now, and in the last 4 months.


I'm the exact same with the hourglass issue. Erection starts out with hourglass shape but then expands on out. I'm sorry I'm not a doctor, and maybe the term psychogenic is used too much. I have no idea what is wrong with myself, and the doctors that I've been to know nothing about the hourglass shape.

I don't remember if you tried this or not, but maybe it is time to look into a pelvic floor specialist and may give some relief from your HF symptoms. I don't know a lot about HF, but it does seem like you could have symptoms of it from what I understand. I'm going to inquire about this myself. It is a long shot for one thing there is only one in my area that I know of. Pelvic floor problems must not be very common or of high importance because I would think there would be more therapists available. I'm available if you ever need to chat or just want to compare notes.

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby Martin6469 » Sat Jul 23, 2022 1:26 pm

westerntown: Get testosterone checked. You're depressed, and low T might be a cause (see my signature), among your physical problems.
Age 78 in 2023. On testosterone replacement due to hypothalamus malfunction. (Attention depressed guys: low testosterone is a cause.) Healthy health nut but ED due to getting old. Like to keep enough cardiovascular ability to thrust for 30 min.

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby ScrewedbyDoctors » Mon Jul 25, 2022 9:48 am

Westerntown, I know exactly how you feel because I have the same symptoms. I was desesperate for solutions, I went to a clinic that told me that the PRP plus Aminium injection would heal my fibrosis, well, that made it much worse, then the Shockwave therapy and it made it worse again. Now my penis has a rotation/narrowing/curve/hourglass, is a completely mess. Do not go to these fake healers that promises to fix your fibrosis, because they won't
I had a trauma 2 years ago, caused me narrowing, dent and shortening. PRP injections three months ago=worse narrowing, and worse ED. Now I only have two choices: impotent or implant. Born in 1975, in a relationship with girlfriend fir 4 years

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby westerntown » Mon Aug 01, 2022 3:16 am

ScrewedbyDoctors wrote:Westerntown, I know exactly how you feel because I have the same symptoms. I was desesperate for solutions, I went to a clinic that told me that the PRP plus Aminium injection would heal my fibrosis, well, that made it much worse, then the Shockwave therapy and it made it worse again. Now my penis has a rotation/narrowing/curve/hourglass, is a completely mess. Do not go to these fake healers that promises to fix your fibrosis, because they won't


Budluck.
Late 2020, penile injury. Hard flaccid like symptoms since. Flaccid Hourglassing. always turtled. Sever loss of rigidity. Unable to have penetrative sex with girlfriend. Cialis does not help. 21yo, Ca

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby SemajR » Sun Aug 21, 2022 10:17 pm

Hello I had prostate removed 1 1/2 yr ago and had E.D. afterwards . I also lost 1 1/2 " penis length and must take a lot of Viagra to get an erection. At Dr's advise I month after operation he has me taking Viagra 100 Mg every night at bedtime to encourage nocturnal erections and has me using the vac-erect electric vacuum pump. I vacuum at night and in the morning. Here lately I noticed a slight hour glass shape to my penis and slight indention in the same area and it doesn't hurt. I am scheduled to see a urologist about it next month . (1) ...But until then should i cease the vacuum rehab and /or Viagra ? (2) Also is it possible to fix this without surgery? My wife gives me oral sex I seldom do vaginal and the last time I did things got pretty heated and during that I wasn't fully erected so (3) I wonder if that also may have been what messed up my penis? (4) Could it be I vacuumed too hard (?). because I pull it out to the point of slight pain. It has a safety that only allows so much vacuum. (5) Is there anything I can do as of now to Baby it a bit to start a natural recovery? You said "Don't squeeze your penis" Hmm I was vacuum pumping and when I am though I squeeze my penis to get down to normal relaxed size.(6) Is it possible that's what caused a slight hourglass ?

Thank you

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Re: Hitting a wall.

Postby Trav8701 » Sat Dec 10, 2022 7:00 pm

Why tf havent you gone bionic yet?

westerntown wrote:Its been about 2 years of me seeing urologists for my issues. Each one just kind of shrugs their shoulders or says "youll get better" or some combination of the two.

Ive tried different treatments, but the reality is that there just isnt simply anything for hourglassing+ed

At 21, having this since 19, you can only imagine the wall ive hit these last two years. But i persevered. I started hitting the gym, and I even graduated college early and got a job in finance. My engine has always been full steam. But lately Ive hit a wall. I dont slepe at night. I dont get pleasure from going out with friends. Life just feels extremely pointless... because I feel like I have it all, except for the one thing I want most: a normal penis.

I miss everything about my life pre-19. I always wanted to grow up and face the real world, but Im realizing this is it. This is my life. Those feelings of love and intimacy, running around the room with my girl like were two bunnies, those feelings are so buried right now that I wouldnt even recognize the pre-19 me if he stared me in the face.

I somehow at 21, feel as if I have felt everything I am ever going to feel. It kills me to wrap my head around this. To accept. I am the biggest realist you will ever meet. I just want to say at face value that I dont value my life and have that be understood by friends and family. They always find a way to convince you otherwise- thats what makes them "friends and family." But lately, I dont care about their opinion. I just want what I want. And right now, at this wall, I am thinking I just dont want to exist and fight these problems every morning i wake up and every night I sleep. I dont want to look down at my penis and see a pathetic hourglass that is all turtled into my pubic bone. I dont want to have to play stupid when my friends talk about girls- the reality is that I slept with more women than all of them combined and thats giving them credit for up till now and giving myself credit for just pre-19. My manhood is diminished. No, I dont base my confidence in myself on my cock innately. But it hurts.

It not healthy for a 21 year old healthy and attractive looking male making money to have to deal with this. Its just not. Lashing out at family has become an unhealthy outlet, but the truth is im tired of them saying shit like "youll get better. here eat this turmeric and ginger." Gosh, like what the fuck man? Is this where I pictured myself ten years ago, five years ago? Depressed, impotent, a huge loser. And i get it, "go out and grab the life you want, no ones gonna give it to you." But how am I supposed to "grab" it when it doesnt exist. This isnt a PR in the gym where you keep lifting, and you keep eating, and you keep coming back and all of a sudden you earned your reward. No. Not at all. This a fucking slow spiral that can be stopped by nothing short of a fucking Moses-splitting-water-like miracle. I am frustrated. You can probably tell from the way I throw "fuck" around so liberally like urologists throw their cialis scripts.

Angry. Sad. Then angry. Everytime. I start out sad as fuck ready to cry in a ball, I start thinking out loud, and get angry enough to fight a small bear, and then rinse repeat. Ill go ignore things for days, even weeks, but be back at it eventually. Cause its not a cycle, its some weird cruvy, windy, loppy, track... but it always connects back to the end. And in that sense it is a cycle. And I know, its not healthy and its not productive or constructive and its never gonna get me anywhere. But again, where can I go?

Disclaimer: I may get comments saying I sound "defeatist." I think Im just tired man. I think its justified. I am not your traditional defeatist. I try to think of all avenues, and routes, and explore possibilities before I start splurging with my bullshit. But I did exhaust all those avenues and routes and possibilites for the last two years and Im really fed up with the results.

Currently lying down and my penis is retracted into my stomach, got a sharp pain in my right buttock near the outside glutes. Have not had a single sexual moment of intrigue in the last 6 months. Im a dog in misery. Put me down now, why dont you?.
31. Jelq-HF in 2017. Has continued to get worse. 5mg daily cialis, 10mg on demand. Considering other options.


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