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Personally, I say anyone can forgive, but never forget, esp. if you have been betrayed.
This was something that I am pretty sure was going to be 'shared' with his wife, regardless, so talk about it in a belittling way....just communicate and then take action.
Only you can decide. Some people on here were harsh, but at the same time, it is only from your side.
16 years is a long time, so take whatever was said on here with a grain of salt and decide on a course of action. After all, we don't know your dynamics.
Good Luck!

LuisFernandez wrote:100% agree. In my opinion men need to stop letting women and wives get away with this kind of behavior. There's plenty of good women out there.

If my wife told anyone about my ED problems I'd dump her in a second and use my implant like a madman.

That's fucking glorious.

We don't know enough about the OP and their dynamics as a couple to be giving him much relationship advice, and amateur shrink hour has its limitations and risks, to be sure, and I've been guilty myself of forgetting that neat little fact now and again.

So I'm not saying LuisFernandez's advice is 100% right (though it may indeed be). I'm just saying it was a perfect blast.

I get you.

jeffrey79,
Welcome to the forum.
You can find lots of stories of other men's struggles with ED here with many success stories, of various degrees. You can also find some good advice and suggestions, and some bad advice too. This is the internet after all. However, this is not a place I would come to if looking for relationship advice.
Good luck.

cobylinks wrote:How about you trusted your wife with something that was very personal and she(wife) betrayed you and embaresed you very very much. Now your going to go "honey I didn't think about your feelings?"
How about how your wife didn't think about your feelings and how are you going to face your daughter knowing that your wife told her that your " Dick doesn't work"
She betrayed you period, no way you can forget that

Absolutely. Take the red pill bro and don't put a woman on a pedestal. This betrayal is just a small window into her personality.

Move on, get an implant if you need to, go to town and wreck some girls. Fuck her feelings, she obviously didn't care about yours.

Wow, the misogyny in some of these replies was shocking.

I’m sorry you found yourself in this situation. It’s difficult.

Hurt people, hurt people. You are both effected by your ED. It’s not just YOUR problem. It’s a problem for the both of you. Consider this a wake up call that what you have been doing about your ED is not enough. Pursue a solution more aggressively. Find a new urologist if you have to. Explore a new solution: different meds, injections, an implant. Ask your wife to be involved. Talk about what is going on.

I wish you luck. All the best.

Could do some pay back

Good news and bad news dear


Good news is i am getting used to my implant and it works so well


Bad news after trying out my new toy i discovered ur. Girl friends pussy is way tighter then yours

Robert66 wrote:Could do some pay back

Good news and bad news dear


Good news is i am getting used to my implant and it works so well


Bad news after trying out my new toy i discovered ur. Girl friends pussy is way tighter then yours

Wouldn't the more telling tag line be,
"I discovered that your daughter's pussy is way tighter than yours."

Harsh!
But I think that will just make things worse using the daughter

jeffrey79, your feelings are what they are and no one here can tell you what you should be feeling, or even how you should react.

As others have said, we know nothing of the dynamics of your relationship and its course over 16 years. So, if it has been a pretty darn good 16 years overall, should you now heed the advice to "dump her" after a single transgression, even one that strikes below the belt, so to speak? On the other hand, if it's been one bad experience after another, maybe this can properly be regarded as the last straw, the final outrage, and time to move on. No one here can know that.

Also, one must keep in mind, as a practical matter, the cost of separation and divorce, financial and emotional. Are you ready for that?

From my perspective, I see your wife's revelation to her daughter as a fairly egregious breach of trust. On the other hand, I know nothing of the context of the impugned utterance, the circumstances in which it occurred, the interpersonal relationships of all concerned, as developed over some 16 years. Your stark recitation of the facts and your immediate reaction might be subject to some mitigating factors not apparent to those reading here.

Lost Sheep has imparted some thoughts worthy of consideration.

Lastly, it occurs to me that you going off the deep end over this cannot undo what has occurred. It might allow you to have some feeling of having meted out punishment where deserved, but you reacting in high dudgeon is unlikely to effect any improvement in your mental state and might serve only to exacerbate the situation and to keep the horror of it alive for longer than might otherwise be the case if ameliorative steps, and not destructive ones, were taken.

In the end, resist the temptation to act in haste. The matter calls for some sober reflection and I see nothing in the situation begging for an immediate and resolute response. Allow some time for your feelings to settle, to be less raw, yet not so much time as to permit ill feelings to fester. A bit of balance, if you will.

Best wishes. I'll refrain from saying best of luck. This is not a matter of luck. I think you have more control over the outcome than luck would provide.

Lost Sheep wrote:

Robert66 wrote:Could do some pay back

Good news and bad news dear


Good news is i am getting used to my implant and it works so well


Bad news after trying out my new toy i discovered ur. Girl friends pussy is way tighter then yours

Wouldn't the more telling tag line be,
"I discovered that your daughter's pussy is way tighter than yours."[/q






I thought about that but not knowing the.age i thought it would be.better.to say gf