jeffrey79 wrote:Hello all. I've been struggling with Ed for some years now and after fumbling upon this forum I have a little hope now.
But very recently I found out that my wife of 16 years old her 26 year old daughter of my difficulties in frustration. She says that she didn't say much but I doubt that very seriously as the daughter has a mouth like a wide open faucet and I know that they've had full conversations about my Ed. I also know for a fact that the daughter has told some outside non-family members and my issues could spread it the street like covid. I just can't imagine being around a group of people and the joke is on me. There ain't no telling how long this has been going on. This has left me feeling betrayed, humiliated and many other ways that I haven't felt before. This has all but crushed any little confidence that I had about myself and I'm really torn and hurt by this. This is new territory for me and I'm beginning to seek help for my Ed but mentally I'm trashed and I know see them both differently.
What do you guys and ladies (if any) think about this? Am I overacting and how would this make you feel if you were in my shoes. I really need help with this because it's tearing me down.
That's pretty sad to hear. The emotional aspect of ED can be extremely heavy, as all here know. It's a weight on the shoulders of not only the man with ED but of their partner as well - It's not easy for anyone. However, the unrelenting, complete and genuine support of the partner is paramount to dealing with this. Abusing the trust of someone and sharing personal details without their consent is really, really bad.
Still, i don't want to judge your wife. I don't know either of you and it's not my place to push to decisions.
What i can tell you tho, that might help you, is that what's done is done. I fully understand not wanting to talk about ED with people, i know i haven't talked about it with anyone but my parents and wife... but what you should keep in mind is that WAY more men suffer from the same thing than you probably imagine. Don't fear that "the joke's on gonna be on you". End of the day, ED is a medical condition, it is NOT your fault and not something to really be ashamed of. It's not for everyone to know, since it doesn't concern them, but it's no different from any other condition that we might have and don't automatically talk about.
If anything, you can be proud of having the strength to deal this problem, rather than feeling ashamed.