Jb1255 wrote:i am a 65 year old male and I live on Long Island. I am alone alot, I have had some form of ED for some time now. Over time it has progrssesd led to where i am not able to get an erection at all. I have been made aware of and used so many different methods to acheive an erection, but over time none work anymore. Short of implant i believe i have tried most everything else.
Your experience is similar to mine. nearly 4 decades of slowly progressing E.D. eventually becoming almost 100% impotence, response to oral medications eventually disappearing. Vacuum Erection Device (VED), suppositories and Injections did not appeal to me, so I sought an implant. My primary care doctor agreed (largely because I had done my homework through research of medical journals) He told me that I knew more about E.D. than he did!
Jb1255 wrote:
These days i date very little. The thought of being naked with a woman scares
me because i know the result and become depressed. i become so worried about not
being able to have intercourse that i hardly date at all.
I went on a dating site, advertising that I had E.D. and (more importantly!!!) was actively seeking a solution. Women responded and mostly were supportive of a man who (in their words) was courageous enough to be open on the issue. Even before that, women I dated were informed that my penis did not work as well as I wished. Of course, I did learn alternative ways of satisfying my partner, so the penis was not the failure focus it would have otherwise been. Sex is a cooperative activity. If you are not in full cooperative partnership with your partner of the night (or of the weekend or of your lifetimes), you are not doing it right! (My opinion and value judgment)
There is no reason to be scared. I have found that women are incredibly supportive if they feel trusted, respected and safe.
Jb1255 wrote:
I have no idea where to start. Thanks
First, please start by telling us more of your history; we will be able to address your questions if we know more about you and your experiences so far.
A signature (open up your profile, top right, where your user name is) would be helpful in doing that. There is not enough room for a full history, so a description in a post would be good also. especially to provide background for any specific question(s) you have.
When I first joined FrankTalk, I took a couple weekends to read through two and a half years of posts/threads with titles that interested me and appeared informative. I recommend this to you. It will give you a better basis for forming questions and understanding the answers.
Personally, I also recommend doing extensive research on your chosen surgeon and interview him (or her) pointedly and make yourself an integral part of the medical team. (Of course, many men choose not to do that and I cannot fault them - just do what is comfortable for your personality and approach to your medical care.)
Looking forward to hearing more from you.
Lost Sheep
