Where do I start

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
Jb1255
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Where do I start

Postby Jb1255 » Sat Aug 29, 2020 1:54 pm

i am a 65 year old male and I live on Long Island. I am alone alot,
I have had some form of ED for some time now. Over time it has progrssesd
ed to where i am not able to get an erection at all. I have been made aware of
and used so many different methods to acheive an erection, but over time none
work anymore. Short of implant i believe i have tried most everything else.
These days i date very little. The thought of being naked with a woman scares
me because i know the result and become depressed. i become so worried about not
being able to have intercourse that i hardly date at all. i figure at this point i am done.
I have no idea where to start. Thanks

alfa88
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Location: North of Gilligan's Island

Re: Where do I start

Postby alfa88 » Sat Aug 29, 2020 4:20 pm

Let me be the 1st to welcome you to FT. Not to sound trite but join the club. If all else has failed it may be time to consider an implant. The great news for you is you have the finest implant Drs in the world in your neck of the woods. Add to that Medicare will cover most if not all the cost of surgery. I get mine this Tuesday and I feel like it's Christmas.
53 years old, married 32 years. Decades of ED & PE. BPH. Tried Viagra W & W/O T-Shots, Levitra and Cialis, Edex, Trimix starter, medium, strong with poor results, VED. Implanted w/AMS700CX 21cm X 12mm w/1.5cm RTE by Dr. Leroy Jones 9/1/20

Charlie2019
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Re: Where do I start

Postby Charlie2019 » Sat Aug 29, 2020 5:07 pm

Jb1255 wrote:i am a 65 year old male and I live on Long Island. I am alone alot,
I have had some form of ED for some time now. Over time it has progrssesd
ed to where i am not able to get an erection at all. I have been made aware of
and used so many different methods to acheive an erection, but over time none
work anymore. Short of implant i believe i have tried most everything else.
These days i date very little. The thought of being naked with a woman scares
me because i know the result and become depressed. i become so worried about not
being able to have intercourse that i hardly date at all. i figure at this point i am done.
I have no idea where to start. Thanks



Welcome. I am 53 years old and have had an implant since Dec 14 2017 and I LOVE IT. I use to have premature ejaculation (really bad) but, thanks to the implant, I no longer have it. I can have sex for absolutely as long as I want to and if I cum too soon, I just keep going anyway. I feel like I'm 18 again. Cheer up, there is a great sex life after ED. :)
53 years old. 3 botched circumcisions starting at 3 years old. 2 botched reconstructive attempts, finally got the AMS LGX on Dec 14, 2017 in London Ontario by Dr. Gerry Brock. Great Dr. Love my implant

Jb1255
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Re: Where do I start

Postby Jb1255 » Tue Sep 01, 2020 1:54 pm

i am considering implant, I am concerned however that i live
alone and worried about aftercare and infection. any input is
appreciated, Thank You

Lost Sheep
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Re: Where do I start

Postby Lost Sheep » Tue Sep 01, 2020 8:47 pm

Jb1255 wrote:i am considering implant, I am concerned however that i live
alone and worried about aftercare and infection. any input is
appreciated, Thank You

It can be done. If you are very careful about cleanliness and anti-septic procedures and prepare your living space well.

Do you have pets? It might be worthwhile to keep them out of your sleeping and bathing area, if not board them out for a few days, starting two days before surgery to give you time to do a deep cleaning.

Prepare meals beforehand. You will not want to spend time on meal prep. Casseroles, soups, stews can be kept and re-warmed easily.

Let your medical team know you will be caring for yourself and they will provide advice, I am sure.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017 Dr Shaw.
READ OLD THREADS to ask better questions and better understand answers.
Make yourself part of your medical team.
Document your current penile size: photos and written records.
Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps.

notaes
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Re: Where do I start

Postby notaes » Tue Sep 01, 2020 9:15 pm

Jb1255

I am 67 yrs old had my implant a January 9, 2020. Medicare paid all but $1408 of my implant bill. My secondary insurance paid the rest. I did not have to pay a penny out of pocket for my new bionic cock. I would do it again in a heartbeat. No regrets!
66 yr old male married 36 yrs use trimix four yrs, cilais and Viagra. trimix work well developed scarring on both sides had implant 1/9/2020 at UT Med Ctr, Knoxville, TN Dr. John Lacy.

notaes
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Re: Where do I start

Postby notaes » Tue Sep 01, 2020 9:23 pm

Jb1255

I had my implant surgery In January of 2020. No pain no complications of any kind. When I woke up from surgery I could not even tell I had surgery! I finally looked at my penis to make sure I had the surgery and it was wrapped. Seriously, i could not tell because I did not have any pain. We all respond to this surgery differently! Don’t let fear keep you from doing what you need to do. I would do it again in a heartbeat! Great outcome.
66 yr old male married 36 yrs use trimix four yrs, cilais and Viagra. trimix work well developed scarring on both sides had implant 1/9/2020 at UT Med Ctr, Knoxville, TN Dr. John Lacy.

Jb1255
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Re: Where do I start

Postby Jb1255 » Sun Sep 27, 2020 8:28 pm

Thank you for all your imput. I am seriously considering implant. it has been recommendedthat i go see Dr. Franciose Eid in NY, Anybody familiar with him? thank you

Lost Sheep
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Re: Where do I start

Postby Lost Sheep » Mon Sep 28, 2020 12:51 pm

Jb1255 wrote:i am a 65 year old male and I live on Long Island. I am alone alot, I have had some form of ED for some time now. Over time it has progrssesd led to where i am not able to get an erection at all. I have been made aware of and used so many different methods to acheive an erection, but over time none work anymore. Short of implant i believe i have tried most everything else.

Your experience is similar to mine. nearly 4 decades of slowly progressing E.D. eventually becoming almost 100% impotence, response to oral medications eventually disappearing. Vacuum Erection Device (VED), suppositories and Injections did not appeal to me, so I sought an implant. My primary care doctor agreed (largely because I had done my homework through research of medical journals) He told me that I knew more about E.D. than he did!

Jb1255 wrote:
These days i date very little. The thought of being naked with a woman scares
me because i know the result and become depressed. i become so worried about not
being able to have intercourse that i hardly date at all.

I went on a dating site, advertising that I had E.D. and (more importantly!!!) was actively seeking a solution. Women responded and mostly were supportive of a man who (in their words) was courageous enough to be open on the issue. Even before that, women I dated were informed that my penis did not work as well as I wished. Of course, I did learn alternative ways of satisfying my partner, so the penis was not the failure focus it would have otherwise been. Sex is a cooperative activity. If you are not in full cooperative partnership with your partner of the night (or of the weekend or of your lifetimes), you are not doing it right! (My opinion and value judgment)

There is no reason to be scared. I have found that women are incredibly supportive if they feel trusted, respected and safe.

Jb1255 wrote:
I have no idea where to start. Thanks


First, please start by telling us more of your history; we will be able to address your questions if we know more about you and your experiences so far.

A signature (open up your profile, top right, where your user name is) would be helpful in doing that. There is not enough room for a full history, so a description in a post would be good also. especially to provide background for any specific question(s) you have.

When I first joined FrankTalk, I took a couple weekends to read through two and a half years of posts/threads with titles that interested me and appeared informative. I recommend this to you. It will give you a better basis for forming questions and understanding the answers.

Personally, I also recommend doing extensive research on your chosen surgeon and interview him (or her) pointedly and make yourself an integral part of the medical team. (Of course, many men choose not to do that and I cannot fault them - just do what is comfortable for your personality and approach to your medical care.)

Looking forward to hearing more from you.

Lost Sheep
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017 Dr Shaw.
READ OLD THREADS to ask better questions and better understand answers.
Make yourself part of your medical team.
Document your current penile size: photos and written records.
Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps.

oldbeek
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Joined: Sun Sep 10, 2017 1:46 pm
Location: Los Angeles area

Re: Where do I start

Postby oldbeek » Mon Sep 28, 2020 11:03 pm

Put Dr Eid in the search box upper right and hit the spyglass. He is mentioned numerous times here and is one of the best.
78, good health, RP 7-2017, all nerves taken , PSA 0.05, 4-18,, .08 11/18,.07 1/19,.05 4/19, .06 2/20 Pain with trimix, implant 4-18, Infra-pubic, AMS lgx 15 cm with 5cm rte. Implant at USC Keck. Dr Boyd and Dr Loh Doyle 6 x 4.5, 800 AUS 7-21-20


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