I just give up.

What are your fears? Ideas? Hints? to coping with ED. What helps you with your mental game? How are relationships affected?
needsomehope
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I just give up.

Postby needsomehope » Fri Dec 27, 2019 12:29 pm

I'm just done. it's been 15 years since I've had anyone but me touch my penis. no penetration, no blowjobs, no nothing. most of my 20's and almost all my 30's just wasted. I'm so far beyond depressed I just can't take it anymore. I got cursed with a small penis to begin with, then God decided it'd be funny to throw every penile affliction at me. hourglass peyronies, venous leak, scrotal webbing from an overzealous circumcision, life-long low testosterone... I'm just doomed.

no one is supposed to live without sex and love. I just can't take it anymore. I'm a good person with many positive attributes. I attract women left and right, but can't do anything about it. it's literal torture. I've been so depressed that I let my life fall apart. I wish I could get an implant, but there's no way I could afford it. hell, I can't make rent next month. didn't get to see my family for Christmas because I couldn't afford to travel.

not sure why I'm even writing this. maybe because you guys can understand how much sexual dysfunction can ruin a man's life. I'm not even a "man", just some pathetic creature.

well I truly hope you all enjoy your 6 and 7 inch + functioning penises. I'd give anything to be in your shoes. maybe next lifetime. I just hope this one ends soon.

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bldoink
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Re: I just give up.

Postby bldoink » Fri Dec 27, 2019 1:16 pm

I'll make the same reply as I did in your other location, except I'll add that if I had a normally functioning dick I wouldn't be hanging out on this site.
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I have a friend that was seriously damaged in the groin during an airborne training accident involving a tree. He has led an active sex life with multiple partners and then with a wife and committed partner for for the past 15 or more years. He specializes in oral and is a big fan of face sitting. He can never have natural children and wouldn't want to at this point but has had a rich and apparently satisfying sex life for many years. I strongly suspect your privates are in far better shape than his. He got lemons. He made lemonade. He seems happy.

I'm not suggesting your situation parallels my friends situation. I'm not suggesting you don't have more hope for a standard conventional sex life with partners. I wouldn't know. I'm just saying there is hope for a satisfying life even when you are dealt some crappy cards.

I wish you the best and I pray you find some answers in the coming year.
R.R.P 2011 Mayo Jacksonville, Dr. Michael Wehle. Nerve sparing - badly damaged. C in margin. V.E.D, Viagra and PGE-1 (80mcg/ml) injections @ ~ 14 units. Originally Edex20, then compounded PGE-1 - cost. Inject. 9+ yrs. It works. Treasure coast of FL.

needsomehope
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Re: I just give up.

Postby needsomehope » Mon Dec 30, 2019 3:56 pm

at least that guy had a cool story and a reason for his dick being messed up. I was just cursed by God apparently. I feel so fucking pathetic and hopeless.

needsomehope
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Re: I just give up.

Postby needsomehope » Thu Jan 09, 2020 11:15 pm

there's just no hope for some of us. best to accept and embrace that my life is a fucking nightmare of a joke.

Lost Sheep
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Re: I just give up.

Postby Lost Sheep » Fri Jan 10, 2020 12:36 pm

needsomehope wrote:there's just no hope for some of us. best to accept and embrace that my life is a fucking nightmare of a joke.


When life is a joke, show your mettle. Laugh in its face and resist. "Do not go gentle into that good night." "Rage, rage against the dying of the light".

You have value and something to contribute to the world (I discern from your depth of feeling and ability to string words together). Do not extinguish that light. Your trials can be fodder to benefit others who need you. Need your wisdom. Need to hear your story. Share it. Share it now. And not just here. A support group where you can show others face-to-face the pain and perseverance the E.D. and other challenges you have faced and are facing. Your experience is important to share. Your reason for being on this Earth is not yet fulfilled.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017 Dr Shaw.
READ OLD THREADS to ask better questions and better understand answers.
Make yourself part of your medical team.
Document your current penile size: photos and written records.
Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps.

Artmopic
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Re: I just give up.

Postby Artmopic » Fri Mar 12, 2021 7:20 am

Keep your head high, brother! A man is NOT defined by such trivial things you mentioned. I know that pain all too well, but halt the mental torture you experience for a moment and consider that the penis issues you have may very well saved you from a far worse fate.

Have you checked the divorce statistics and how bad those men have it? Or maybe have you checked out the STD statistics and seen how bad those men have it? There are antibiotic-resistant STDs now, and more prevalent than one would expect. Or maybe have you checked out the violent crime statistics and seen how many of those were done due to underlying sexual relations of sorts?

Rejoice, for you've successfully avoided all these by just keeping it in your pants.

We live in possibly the greatest times the human race has ever seen, brother. In fact, the technology is so advanced that you could get one VR Helmet and you'd be set with all the best hotties right in front of your face for life. Or you could do whatever else you wish to.

Here's a quote from the great Marcus Aurelius:

“Misfortune nobly born is good fortune.”

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Re: I just give up.

Postby LeRoastBeef » Fri Mar 12, 2021 8:09 am

Artmopic, while I respect your effort to help, and your interesting way of thinking (I'm not trying to be condescending, you have given me food for thought, you're right quite frankly), I am pretty sure (being in a similar, although admittedly less horrible, position to op) that you're insights are not going to go down well.

Better to have fucked and lost, than to have never fucked at all.
Venous leakage (Cavernosum and glans). 31yrs. In the process of getting an implant. Nervous but accepting it has to be done. Love Franktalk.

Martin6469
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Re: I just give up.

Postby Martin6469 » Sat Jun 26, 2021 3:05 pm

needsomehope: I see you have low testosterone. This inevitably causes depression independently of whatever else is going on in your life. Have a G.P. or endocrinologist get you on synthetic testosterone. It's a 100 percent remedy and works immediately.
Age 76 in 2021. On testosterone replacement due to hypothalamus malfunction. (Attention depressed guys: low testosterone is a cause.) Healthy health nut but ED due to getting old. Like to keep enough cardiovascular ability to thrust for 30 min.

ViaSwiss
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Re: I just give up.

Postby ViaSwiss » Sat Jun 26, 2021 3:17 pm

needsomehope, I was in your shoes exactly. I just got implanted.
Age 34. Venous Leakage & Post Finasteride Syndrome (PFS) since age 18.
Implanted June 25, 2021: 20cm Titan w 1.5cm & 1cm RTEs
Dr. Alex Tatem in Indy

spacecoast2021
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Re: I just give up.

Postby spacecoast2021 » Sat Jun 26, 2021 6:19 pm

I just saw this post and realize it's not new. I'm so sorry for your challenges, and for the way you feel.

I understand your anger towards God.

Here's a man who has terrible physical issues. I hope his story will encourage you.

https://youtu.be/tJnJ_fTYofQ

needsomehope wrote:I'm just done. it's been 15 years since I've had anyone but me touch my penis. no penetration, no blowjobs, no nothing. most of my 20's and almost all my 30's just wasted. I'm so far beyond depressed I just can't take it anymore. I got cursed with a small penis to begin with, then God decided it'd be funny to throw every penile affliction at me. hourglass peyronies, venous leak, scrotal webbing from an overzealous circumcision, life-long low testosterone... I'm just doomed.

no one is supposed to live without sex and love. I just can't take it anymore. I'm a good person with many positive attributes. I attract women left and right, but can't do anything about it. it's literal torture. I've been so depressed that I let my life fall apart. I wish I could get an implant, but there's no way I could afford it. hell, I can't make rent next month. didn't get to see my family for Christmas because I couldn't afford to travel.

not sure why I'm even writing this. maybe because you guys can understand how much sexual dysfunction can ruin a man's life. I'm not even a "man", just some pathetic creature.

well I truly hope you all enjoy your 6 and 7 inch + functioning penises. I'd give anything to be in your shoes. maybe next lifetime. I just hope this one ends soon.
64, married 45 years. Recently diagnosed with aggressive prostate cancer and looking for ways to enjoy the rest of my life with my wife, on the other side of cancer treatment.


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