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The part I miss the most is the mental and physical pleasure derived from us both being in the mood; and having the normal physical reactions like blood pressure and pulse rising. The body becoming an erogenous area just in general. The mounting tension mentally from petting to heavy petting to wherever it goes that particular night.

It seems like after a full day for the both of us once we have had dinner we both have desire for each other but it's like "OK" which part or parts do we leave out so we can go to sleep?

"Date night"

Many couples after a few years of marriage, kids, mortgages and all the little (and big) the exigencies of life, find ardor waning. The solution is to make the decision to have some quality time devoted to passion, sex, renewal. While goal-oriented activity is not recommended, making an open-ended goal of just being together for the purpose of relaxing pleasure is recommended.

Take care of each other.

Also, there are some comments in these two threads I started a few days ago, especially the one about partners who have roughly matching libidos...or, as I am finding out, the willingness of one partner to "rise to the occasion" when the other partner is feeling "frisky".

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Good luck. And remember, we most often make our own luck.