Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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Cigar56
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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby Cigar56 » Tue Jun 23, 2015 7:58 am

I'm 59 and have been masturbating since I was a pre-teen. Now I have been married for more than three decades, but I have never stopped solo play.

My wife has had a low sex drive since we married, and now she has about zero interest although she won't admit it. I've told her I'm not interested in slowing down sexually, so I experiment with solo toys as much as possible. You do whatever you have to do.
Age 61 as of 2017. Under "active surveillance" for small amounts of cancer in prostate as of 2016. Quit using ED pills and now using injections. Considering an implant. Surgeon advises shrinking prostate to avoid damaging bladder during RALP.

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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby maxkohn » Tue Jun 30, 2015 1:04 am

Cigar56 wrote:I'm 59 and have been masturbating since I was a pre-teen. Now I have been married for more than three decades, but I have never stopped solo play.

My wife has had a low sex drive since we married, and now she has about zero interest although she won't admit it. I've told her I'm not interested in slowing down sexually, so I experiment with solo toys as much as possible. You do whatever you have to do.


What solo toys do you experiment with?
Max Kohn

54 years old, from Chicago IL USA, prostate removed in 2011, nerves spared. Lots of complications and no erections since.
Currently trying injections after pills didn't work. In a relationship with a 54 year old woman in menopause.

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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby Cigar56 » Sun Oct 04, 2015 9:49 pm

Hi Max,

Sorry I missed your note. I use the Tenga Egg.It's a male sex toy device that fits over the head of the penis. Combined with a Trimix injection and lots of lube, it feels really close to the real thing. You should check it out.
Age 61 as of 2017. Under "active surveillance" for small amounts of cancer in prostate as of 2016. Quit using ED pills and now using injections. Considering an implant. Surgeon advises shrinking prostate to avoid damaging bladder during RALP.

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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby Unclebob81 » Sun Dec 18, 2016 11:28 pm

I struggled for a long time with masturbation as a married man. Then my wife had some health issues and our sex life was on hold for several years. The guide for my life as a Christian is the Bible. The Bible is absolutely silent on the topic. But the Bible has much to say about our sexuality. What's in my mind is what really matters. There can be no place for porn in my life. In fact when I masturbate recalling the wonderful times with my wife brings me the most pleasure. I can't let solo sex keep me from wooing my wife into love making. I can't let it dominate my life. My uro even encouraged masturbation post prostectomy. It has helped along with Trimix in helping to restore my complete sexual function. Sex was God's idea and I say amen! Intercourse is always best but I've come to appreciate masturbation as a Good gift as well.
Born in 1953. Robotic prostectomy in 2013.PSA stable .02. Began Trimix 3 years after surgery. Couldn't be more satisfied.

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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby jonbaldbg » Mon Dec 19, 2016 6:40 am

I'm 61 and still have intercourse about once a week. Sometimes I will masturbate one other time per week It just depends. Of course, at 61 I don't have the libido I once did, but I find orgasms extremely satisfying either with sex or with masturbation.

For years I've had problems getting orgasms even when taking Viagra, Cialis, or injections. I could get hard, but something down inside just didn't get enough blood. Before Viagra, I was prescribed a drug called Yohimbine and it worked well. When Viagra came out, I soon found I still needed some Yohimbine.

It is almost impossible to get as a prescription now, but I order it herbally from Amazon. I get Primaforce Yohimbine HCL. It comes in 250mg capsules.

The problem with Yohimbine HCL is the side effects. If you want to use this to restore orgasms, research the side effects online. The two most troubling side effects for me are anxiety and raised blood pressure. I didn't have the problems with the side effects when I took it as a prescription 3x a day at a dosage of 5.5. I think the body adjusted and I was younger without blood pressure issues.

Now, rather than daily I take it as needed about 45 minutes to an hour before intercourse or masturbation. I have gone to cutting a 250 mg capsule in half and that is all I need plus it reduces the side effects to a much better level. I also will take a Cialis because it lowers blood pressure and helps counteract the BP raising qualities of the Yohimbine. My doctor also told me I could double my BP med before I take it.

It really does work well and has been a lifesaver for me.

Unlike many men who get implants, I have found that my implant has actually increased my sensitivity and I am now able to masturbate without the Yohimbine and I achieve a good orgasm. I was shocked the first time this happened. However, I still need the very small amount of Yohimbine to push me over the edge during intercourse.

Hopefully, this is helpful to many of you guys. I notice this is an old thread, but hopefully, many of your are still reading it. Again, make sure to study the side effects of Yohimbine before using it. Take as little as you can and still be effective. There are those who consider this drug unsafe and some websites state it is potentially unsafe. But, my primary care physician and urologist both give me permission to use it and my primary care physician said it was even ok to allow my blood pressure to rise for several hours as long as it didn't really go much over 160 for the top number. With Cialis and 1/2 capsule it doesn't go that high.

Best to all you wankers out there. It is a good habit to have. Oh, and I'm one of those wanking ministers!!
62 years old. ED for years. High BP and meds have done me in. AMS 700 CX /3.0 cm RTE Implanted by Andrew Kramer on 10/12/16. Involved revision to relocate tubes and pump performed 12/29/16 by Dr. Knoll of Nashville, TN.

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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby Greg1956 » Wed Oct 25, 2017 8:43 am

I love my intimate relationship with my wife. I just had implant surgery 5weeks ago and we just started having sex again and it is awesome. I started masturbating the night of my 11th Birthday and have never stopped. Even on days when I have sex with my wife, I still generally jack off.

To answer your question about sex versus solo, if you really think about it solo is 100% about you whereas sex is partly about you and partly about satisfying your partner. It should be no surprise that 100% stimulation of your cock and balls is going to be difficult to beat.
I am 61. Began having ED at age 30 and tried everything. Implanted by Dr. Ronald Anglade in Atlanta on September 18, 2017. I received an AMS LGX 18cm with 3cm RTE via a Penoscrotal incision. Thrilled with my results. Willing to Show & Tell.

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Re: Pleasurable Sensations as We Age: Intercourse vs. Solo

Postby thinktank » Wed Oct 25, 2017 9:08 am

Glad to see men still chiming in on this topic as it relates to the aging process.

Greg. You are so right in your opinions. The big M is all about us. These days I am learning dry Os and MMOs. They are another world of pleasure that I hope to put to use with my sweetie of 45 years.

But short of intercourse, dry Os and MMOs are renovating and restoring my sexuality in ways I did not deem imaginable. All thanks to a Creator who made these male bodies and placed within them the capacity for such pleasure. He is truly kind to us guys as we age and lose physical sexual prowess, but are still as active in our minds sexually as 13 year old boys. So glad He understands.

All the best to the great guys on this website. I have anonymously enjoyed your company for years and I thank you for being such great anonymous friends talking so honestly among ourselves as men. In the final analysis, we all have one body part with which we have a life long love affair.


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