How to keep it private?

The final frontier. Deciding when, if and how.
INfarmer
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby INfarmer » Mon Jan 08, 2018 2:30 pm

newbie443 wrote:
Larry10625 wrote:
newbie443 wrote:Great news for me. Many thank. I'll do an online search now. We need a happy dance icon for the smilies. :D



That was great advice BUT once everything is said and done, are you going to try to keep it even from your sex partners?

Larry


I don't kiss and tell to folks I know and am around. Now women they talk. And they will find the 3rd guy down there. So later after it is done and working I will be ok with folks knowing. But until then I want it to be private. I guess I can talk about it here. But not to others I know until it is fixed. I don't know if that makes any kind of sense or not.



Hell I brag about mine and so does the wife...so loves it!
52 married 25 years, ED started when I was in military from nerve damage back & PTSD in 2003 following my last deployment. Implant was done at Hines VAMC by Loyola University. They implanted a AMS 700 CX (18 cm with 5 cm tips) installed on 10/4/2017.

Happy Hoppy
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Happy Hoppy » Sun Oct 28, 2018 11:56 pm

What do you tell your boss and co-workers? I work for a large corporation and will have to tell HR the real reason, but does everyone have to know? :lol: :lol: :lol: It seems quite embarressing to tell everyone.

Larry10625

Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Oct 29, 2018 6:37 am

Happy Hoppy wrote:What do you tell your boss and co-workers? I work for a large corporation and will have to tell HR the real reason, but does everyone have to know? :lol: :lol: :lol: It seems quite embarressing to tell everyone.



Some of our members have said that they used a hernia repair as the reason. I used prostate problems as a reason but I like the hernia repair better. Why would you have to tell your HR department the truth if you don't want them to know?? :)

Larry

Happy Hoppy
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Happy Hoppy » Mon Oct 29, 2018 7:18 am

On other surgeries they seem to contact the doc and get paperwork and stuff. I think they check out your story on being absent from work for few weeks or whatever.

Larry10625

Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Oct 29, 2018 7:25 am

Happy Hoppy wrote:On other surgeries they seem to contact the doc and get paperwork and stuff. I think they check out your story on being absent from work for few weeks or whatever.



That is understandable but, most employers are content with a doctors note. Even if they do call your work, privacy laws will not allow them to say anything more than you had a procedure and will need _____ number of days off. If you don't want to tell them, don't. :)

Larry

FreddyFree
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby FreddyFree » Mon Oct 29, 2018 9:49 am

Happy Hoppy wrote:On other surgeries they seem to contact the doc and get paperwork and stuff. I think they check out your story on being absent from work for few weeks or whatever.


There is no way a doctor will tell an employer the health problems of their patients. No way!
AMS 700 CX 18cm. x 12mm. With 3cm. RTEs. 10/10/18

TANGERINE
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby TANGERINE » Mon Oct 29, 2018 12:13 pm

agreed that there is "no way that a doctor would tell your employer the details" of your medical affairs.

If the HR department needs to know why you will be out for a month, telling them that "you are having surgery and will need to recover" is plenty information enough. They might want a doctor note, and that is easy to get from the office staff (it will say, Joe blow is having surgery on january 1 and will have an expected out of work recovery for two weeks).

Never, should the HR department know more detail than that.

As with other responses, the best possible lines to use are:

"I am having urological surgery"
"I am having a cystocele repair"

The hernia excuse is really great, but many will be suspicious regarding why you would leave town to have a common operation like that.

Finally, as others have stated, using the medical escort service means you will not need to have a family member help you. Going out of town is a great idea since that will mean 100% certainty that nobody can figure out your secret.

I was the same way as you, must be kept secret, so going out of town was ideal.
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(63 yo, Titan 22cm implant Feb 2017 by Dr Eid) I'm super pleased with my length/girth/implant performance. See my story at "The road to becoming a bionic male: Answers ..."

Larry10625

Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Oct 29, 2018 3:02 pm

TANGERINE wrote:agreed that there is "no way that a doctor would tell your employer the details" of your medical affairs.

If the HR department needs to know why you will be out for a month, telling them that "you are having surgery and will need to recover" is plenty information enough. They might want a doctor note, and that is easy to get from the office staff (it will say, Joe blow is having surgery on january 1 and will have an expected out of work recovery for two weeks).

Never, should the HR department know more detail than that.

As with other responses, the best possible lines to use are:

"I am having urological surgery"
"I am having a cystocele repair"

The hernia excuse is really great, but many will be suspicious regarding why you would leave town to have a common operation like that.

Finally, as others have stated, using the medical escort service means you will not need to have a family member help you. Going out of town is a great idea since that will mean 100% certainty that nobody can figure out your secret.

I was the same way as you, must be kept secret, so going out of town was ideal.



That is a good point about using "hernia" I never thought of that but, like I said, I used "prostate surgery". I'm surprised nobody asked any further questions. :)

Larry

Vagabond127
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Vagabond127 » Mon Oct 29, 2018 3:17 pm

I say...PENIS REDUCTION. It shuts them right up. I do notice they either smile or look puzzled.
Implanted with Titan 1/15/19 with Dr. Eid.
6-length 4.5-girth.

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Happy Toy
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Re: How to keep it private?

Postby Happy Toy » Mon Oct 29, 2018 5:25 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Now that's a good one to use :!:
Implanted 6/26/2018, Coloplast Titan 20cm, no RTE'S, infra pubic, Dr. Rhee, Kaiser :o 8-) 79yrs., married 56 yrs. ED for over 20 yrs.


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