Mentality

[defiant]

Brothers,

As many of you know I’ve been diagnosed with psychogenic ED. Indeed, my penis does get hard in the middle of the night, and in the morning, sometimes, rarely, but sometimes. On cialis I can get hard indefinitely with the right stimulae. But I have had this problem of anxiety surrounding this whole subject to increasing degrees for over a decade now.

I have just broken up. My problems are more pronounced than ever. I have such a mental aversion to arousal and this whole subject now that I fear for myself. I really do. What’s more is that I cannot seem to believe the diagnosis hence my scheduled visit to the UKs most renowned implant surgeon and andrologist this early Jan. Please note that this will be my fourth urological consultation regarding this over a timeframe of years; I have had 3 dopplers, the first showing a VL (not specified as local but more a general escaping of the blood) the second two showed no VL.

All that aside, it almost doesn’t matter as to the why. It is the what now. And the what is the fact that I am deeply scared by sex and masturbation. I fear failure and the imminent feelings of depression SHOULD I fail. It is acute now.

There is a clear sympathetic overactivity going on here. I took an alpha blocker the other night just to see what would happen. Lowest dosage. Alpha blockers inhibit the stress hormones and relax smooth muscle. Their primary function is to lower BP. My erection once attained was 100% and even though I was stressing, it wasn’t fading as quickly as it might have.

This all aside, it made me realise. What the hell has happened to my brain. One year of psychological counselling hasn’t helped at all.

I’m at a crossroads and really afraid to even chase another woman.

Half of me just wants to implant myself as this frame of mind is no way to live. But I know that that option is nuclear.

Can anyone here help me see another way out of this? I’m at a loss.

Thank you, brothers.

[Anonymous3]

First and foremost DO NOT GIVEUP. Take a holiday where sex would not be on your mind. Maybe sjing the Alps or a rent a boat and do a river tour. You need to let your brain relax and reset.

Everyday find something positive.

May sound strange at your age engage in stuff not related to sex.

[defiant]

First and foremost DO NOT GIVEUP. Take a holiday where sex would not be on your mind. Maybe sjing the Alps or a rent a boat and do a river tour. You need to let your brain relax and reset.

Everyday find something positive.

May sound strange at your age engage in stuff not related to sex.

It’s been going on for so so long man and I lose more and more time. An implant would remove this mental strife from my life. I don’t know how one can overcome something that has been so deeply entrenched in their mind for so long that only gets more and more entrenched by the month.

[Anonymous3]

If you feel the implant would solve the problem start talking to surgerons. Find one that says it it a medical necessity or whatever the UK need to cover the cost if you come to the US and paying out of pocket checkout. Care Credit

[defiant]

If you feel the implant would solve the problem start talking to surgerons. Find one that says it it a medical necessity or whatever the UK need to cover the cost if you come to the US and paying out of pocket checkout. Care Credit

I have an appointment with Britain’s leading implanter in early January.

But for sure my main problem is psychological - a profound, OCD-based fear and anxiety around performance, erections and now sex in general.

[Anonymous3]

The implant after you heal from surgery will solve the erection problem as l9ng as you are willing to pump and accept the fact that you will not get a natural erection 9n the other side of that you want go soft unless you deflate it. I can tell you from my own experince just holding a rock hard dick in your hand makes you feel great. Depend8ng on your personality tell your partners could be a minor problem. If you are open and honest tell them upfront, if they freak just move on cause they can not accept you as you. If you are modest or shy about it there are ways around that also there have been several threads on that subject.

If you go implant you have to keep your eye on the prize thru out the procdure and healing.

[chonky]

I think a lot of the claims that ED is caused by psychological problems is BS. Yes there may be a small portion but we now know that most of it is physical. Back in the seventies and eighties that was the prominent diagnosis which in turn caused actual mental problems . I experienced this first hand only later to find out my periodic ED was most likely caused by venous leakage.

[defiant]

I think a lot of the claims that ED is caused by psychological problems is BS. Yes there may be a small portion but we now know that most of it is physical. Back in the seventies and eighties that was the prominent diagnosis which in turn caused actual mental problems . I experienced this first hand only later to find out my periodic ED was most likely caused by venous leakage.

Most likely? Do you not have a definitive diagnosis?

Also, I see your signature says you were implanted in 2012 only to have it taken out a few months later. What happened and did you get reimplanted successfully?

I agree most cases are physical in their origin but it is a fact that this process is governed by the mind. If your mind is severely impaired, you’re fucked.

[ED2013]

It’s good you have an appointment coming from an implant surgeon. In the meantime, why not enlist the help of some “professional women”. Find one you’re comfortable with and keep trying. Confront your fear head on.

[defiant]

It’s good you have an appointment coming from an implant surgeon. In the meantime, why not enlist the help of some “professional women”. Find one you’re comfortable with and keep trying. Confront your fear head on.

That’s not such a bad idea - I guess the idea being to remind myself I’m capable?