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hturner12 wrote:

Zxylpk wrote:For those of us who have been in long term relationships (in my case 30+ years) it can be complicated. Our wives/partners have likely had to put their own feelings & emotions on hold while we ed guys dealt with our own feelings, frustrations and emotions. After counseling, pumps, pills, shots, trials and failures, our sex life turned into more of an ordeal rather than a pleasurable experience. Consequently our interest in sex waned over the years. Now that we're bionic it would be unfair to expect our significant others to suddenly turn into sex kittens. Feelings and emotions, that have been buried might have to be re-awakened. My wife and I are resuming our sex life but slowly. She is getting used to the idea that sex can be pleasurable again, but it's not an on/off switch - it has to be nurtured . Maybe not as fast as I would like but I am willing to give her time to get used to the new me (us). She has been a gem through my ed years, I can now return the favor.

I am in the same situation plus she is not onboard about the impalant

Hugh, my wife wasn't on board originally and I told her it was for me. Then she got on here and started reading post and came to me and said she was on board under one condition. only her and I will know I was implanted. Your will come around will come around.

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Hugh, my wife wasn't on board originally and I told her it was for me. Then she got on here and started reading post and came to me and said she was on board under one condition. only her and I will know I was implanted. Your will come around will come around.[/quote]

Yeah, what is it with the need for such secrecy? My wife is the same way -- she was originally freaked out by the idea of an implant, but even more so by the idea that anyone would know.
Bob 2.0

She will not read any Dr Hakky gave me, was cold to the patient educator. I know she want read any thing on here. I have a lot of work ahead of nme

My wife was indifferent about the implant, neither in favor nor opposed. She thought it was foolish and unnecessary, but said the decision was mine but not to expect anything from her. She drove me home from the surgery in 2008 and was supportive during recovery (she's a nurse) but after that I was on my own. That was the end of the story (but there's more - see my signature line below)-.

I have a feeli g that they way it will be for me. Sory you never got to use yours

My wife was indifferent about my implant too. A couple of months ago we were having an intense discussion about something else and it came out: I take good care of my body (always have - retired triathlete, work out daily) look young for my age and now this - she admitted she's afraid I'll start looking around for a younger replacement. I wonder how many wives/partners feel insecure now that their s/o's are bionic? Insensitive jerk that I am, it never occurred to me this might be going through her head. Now that I know, Bandits advice (woo her like there's no tomorrow) comes into play. & what fun we're having now!

Zxylpk wrote:My wife was indifferent about my implant too. A couple of months ago we were having an intense discussion about something else and it came out: I take good care of my body (always have - retired triathlete, work out daily) look young for my age and now this - she admitted she's afraid I'll start looking around for a younger replacement. I wonder how many wives/partners feel insecure now that their s/o's are bionic? Insensitive jerk that I am, it never occurred to me this might be going through her head. Now that I know, Bandits advice (woo her like there's no tomorrow) comes into play. & what fun we're having now!

Agree wholeheartedly.
I fuss over H more than I have any woman before and it's so much fun and we both get so much pleasure out of the process. She loves sex with me and she is part of the reason I got the implant, she knows it as fact and absolutely loves the time factor: none, zilch, nada.... NO time factor....she can grind and pump away at her hearts content
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Zxylpk wrote:
My wife was indifferent about my implant too. A couple of months ago we were having an intense discussion about something else and it came out: I take good care of my body (always have - retired triathlete, work out daily) look young for my age and now this - she admitted she's afraid I'll start looking around for a younger replacement. I wonder how many wives/partners feel insecure now that their s/o's are bionic? Insensitive jerk that I am, it never occurred to me this might be going through her head. Now that I know, Bandits advice (woo her like there's no tomorrow) comes into play. & what fun we're having now!"

Glad to see that it helped you. Its kind of a new beginning. Best to you & the Mrs !
Bandit

Bandit wrote:Definately a different feeling for her. Harder. Slightly different angle. Lasts way longer and size is coming back nicely. Love catching up for lost time. Another perspective from the physical is the gained confidence. Not only in love making but just life itself. Spring in my step. I think a while back Smetro stated that he felt women look at him differently. I have to agree. Maybe its my confidence shining thru. But they smile and flirt. Its almost like they know. Strangest thing. And deep down i know i could send them home sore and sudsy ! This thing is F'in wonderful in so many ways !
Bandit

I agree 100% Bandit!! Couldn't have said it better myself!

I'm notimplanted, but could be in my future. I have been using injections which provide me with a 3 hour rock hard erection that must be similar to the implant.
One thing I like about us guys here how much we care about our women's satisfaction and feelings. Guys with past or current ED tend to be more sensitive and caring.
I'm single and blessed with a very active dating life. I believe it's very important to make foreplay and sex exciting and dynamic. Hell, even I as a guy get bored after 10 minutes doing missionary style with the lights on in a T-shirt on.
I use all kinds of ways to build up and maintain the excitement. Constantly communicating verbally, through texts and physically about what's coming. I like to have sex for about 2 hours, so I switch it up with all kinds of places in the house, in the room, positions, toys, outfits, watching porn together etc. This way it never gets old or routine.
Buy one of those Hitachi Magic Wands ($60) and put it on her clit while you are making love to her you standing and her butt at the edge of the bed and she can take it for hours without stopping. Next time watch out. She will plug it in herself lol.
On with the fun