As the new crop of bionic men face surgery dates, I grow nostalgic to the people who helped me during my times february 2017 when I had surgery. The chronicles threads my xomanow were quite useful, so I am placing this comment in this spot (to bump the thread back up).
REGARDING THE DECISION TO HAVE THE IMPLANT and trying to convince your partner , here are my thoughts:
There is another "reality check" that those going through the decision to have the implant must understand.
"You get the implant for you" and you never should get it because you think it will please someone else or if you think it will rescue a failing relationship.
Yes, of course, the implant will make your sex life, and her sex life, 10 times better. BUT this reminds me of an interesting dialogue that I once heard in a movie:
The actress said: "You know, in a relationship, when the sex is good, it is maybe 10 percent of the relationship, but when the sex is bad, it takes up 90% of the relationship"
My point here is that erectile dysfunction can indeed ruin you self esteem and can bring depression feelings quickly to the fore-front; and that certainly can occupy 90% of a relationship and lead to a downfall.
In contrast, if your sexual performance is corrected to the point that your dick is now able to give you the penetrative nirvana that you want, and the vaginal orgasms that she wants, then one might think that suddenly all will be OK ? No. Once both partners are satisfied with the sex part of the relationship, then they both become free to think about other things. The man, in particular, "will be free" once he no longer has the feelings of doom brought on by ED. This feeling of freedom from ED is truly awesome; however, once the specter of ED is no longer a cloud in the relationship, and once pleasurable sex becomes a 100% certainty, then both partners in the relationship start to see the other facets of their life together, and sex becomes just ten percent of the relationship (though, in my opinion, a mandatory ten percent).
I suspect that most partners of men with ED are terrified at the prospect of the implant. I think that this terror stems from four concerns
Firstly:
Once their man becomes a bionic stud, there is concern that he will leave and pursue a life of rampant promiscuity -- that is a fear that needs to be addressed.
Secondly:
There is a concern that sex will be too aggressive, too longlasting, too hard and too frequent for the woman to handle.
Thirdly:
There is concern that the surgery will go bad and that her loved boyfriend/husband will be screwed up
(yes, that is indeed a real issue -- so find a great surgeon)
Fourthly:
There is concern that if her friends find out, she will be embarrassed to be sleeping with a guy who had to get a fake dick. (I am a strong believer that nobody, nobody should know about your implant except for people that you sleep with -- and as all the stories on this board have confirmed, bionic sex is often way better than regular human sex; but it isn't totally natural -- though I argue it is actually supernatural
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