Stupid wrote:This is question for older guys I assume. Facts are. 1 over 65 2 she doesn't know 3. Happily married 4 she always gets satisfied all good but sometimes she says "you have done it enough for your age.: " usually when she is not in the mood..I'm one year post op and lately have had more time than usual so I've been hitting it pretty good. Being able to hold it until she can't is so dam good for my ego I might be trying to overuse it and know her stop sign might light up and am looking for creative things to say. Assume #2 won't change any ideas on what you would say? Ams 18+4. Usc doctor loh Boyle and Dr Boyd are the best!!
#1 I accept but I wonder how old is she?
#2 Maybe she does know, maybe she doesn't. I expect it is irrelevant but for the fact that there is a divide in knowledge between you. which bears on #3
#3 Happily married with a secret between you? Either the fact of your implant or the real reason she opines that you two are having more sex than appropriate. Or, is she really satisfied every time? Women have been known to fake it for the sake of their relationship.
#4 How do you know?
#5 How do you know when she is in the mood vs just going along with your desire? Does she ever initiate? Do you engage in foreplay? How about what I will call pre-foreplay? Women like to be wooed and some women require more of a ramp-up than others. Essentially, are you laying sufficient groundwork. (If you don't prep and sand a piece of wood properly your final paint job will not look good no matter how well you use your brush.)
Creative things to say? How about creative ways to LISTEN.
I am no marriage counselor (and often no expert at listening), but examine your relationship, how the dynamics between you work on all activities, not just intimacy. About intimacy, are there other intimacies you share that DON'T involve sex? Brushing her hair? Massaging her back (or feet - WAY sensual for many women whose feet have been abused by their fashionable shoes). Try this..rub her shoulders while she is washing dishes and DON'T initiate anything sexual. Instead, help dry the dishes and put them away. Drop any hint of sexuality and just LISTEN to how she reacts.
You might take your questions to a professional marriage/relationships counselor. In this case, maybe solo for the first visit. In-person reflection from a trained pro might be more informative than advice by text from us here. Although many men have been in the same situation as you, we may miss the nuances because of the limitations of the venue.
