I do a low pump pressure and kegels exercise routine which keeps things working without the pump later. My pump is manual so after shaving hair from around my penis I might sit down to watch or read some porn. Lube up and insert my penis. Just 2 or 3 pumps to suck the limp noodle into the tube. Rest at low pressure for a couple of minutes then release and rest a couple more. Pump 2-4 times and do 10 kegels and release for equal time. Never hard pumping but low and slow. Continue till I have oh maybe a 100 or more done and then take the pump off and clean it and me up. Couple times a week. I might do kegels in her hand to tease us for later after a bath. Sometimes I have her do kegels on my fingers or my tongue.
Once we got the pump I asked her to help me learn about it and explore. I mean I now would have felt strange trying to do something that obvious privately. That had an unusual effect on her. Now she might ask if we can get the pump up and read or watch video together for a while and then stop. She has my permission to place requests with me now. I encourage her to speak up about what she wants. Maybe then dinner is ready so we eat. Take a joint bath or shower and cleanup real good after dinner. Do a little razor care while in the bath and then dry off. Do mutual skin care slowly. Nothing overt just good coverage and with a smell I can stand. I did finally have to speak up about product smells. She had been using some products I did not like the smell of for years. I finally spoke up and we found others I liked better. Coconut butter and oil both.
For us then maybe I take a pill and we go to bed early and see what happens with no pump and we talk. Sometimes I might get a stuffable erection and stuff it and then do kegels while we talk some more. She is so warm. Sometimes it rises right up and no stuffing is required but normal entry happens. Sometimes I rise up and do not stuff but pay attention to her only and go to sleep. We play with the sexual tension of the situation. We never seem to know where it is going to take us. We try to be glad we are making the trip.
Pelvic floor exercises, also known as kegels, have been shown, in studies conducted by Professor Grace Dorey, to prevent erectile difficulties and restore normal erections.
Research has indicated that 40% of men who had experienced erectile dysfunction for half a year or more regained normal erections after performing pelvic floor exercises daily for 3 to 6 months.
An additional 35% of men strengthened their rigidity. Pelvic floor exercises are best taught individually by a trained therapist to ensure they are being performed correctly.
The process may be described as tightening and lifting the pelvic floor muscles. Imagine trying to stop the flow of urine or prevent the escape of wind from the rear. That is basically the exercise. Each contraction should be as strong as possible and held, initially for several seconds, but gradually building up to 8-10 seconds. Each contraction is followed by a recovery phase of 10 seconds. Importantly, the pelvic floor muscles should be tightened before and during strenuous activities which increase intra-abdominal pressure such as coughing, sneezing, lifting and rising from a sitting position. The pelvic floor muscle exercises may be done while standing, sitting, lying down, or even walking.
So now at 66 and 71 our goal is different. Oh, we still want sex but it is a kinder more gentle and varied dance because we now include some things we had abandoned in our youth.
It is not the same but it sure is OK and we are happy to be together and be alive and healthy.
Now to the pump. I bought a hand pump from England.
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Jim