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I have dealt with a LOT of issues with my wife and I personally think our biggest problem was my ED over a 10 year period!! But I’ve been married 38 years now and been thru some terribly bad times. My daughter got stage 3 lymphoma at 18 and developed a blood clot in her brain from the surgery of installing a port for the chemo. She was inpatient for around 6 months! Took over a year to get the all clear. In the last 10 years since she got past the cancer she’s had both hips replaced, a knee replaced and had triplet kids!
In the last 6 years I’ve torn both shoulders out and had extensive surgery on both, had carpal tunnel surgery on both hands and elbows and last but not least had an implant!!!
Life is full of many ups and downs but I can honestly say as severe as my ED was and as many problems it has created with the wife… ED is by far NOT the worst thing I’ve dealt with!! My marriage is about as good as it’s ever been and I give 90% credit to my implant solving a lot of our issues that turned into many other issues. Fix the problems and the rest will fall into place with the right woman! I hit luck and found mine! Good luck in the future all!

Rufian wrote:
So if you suck at any of these, especially the ones about being hard, hitting the right spots, etc, many just leave or cheat without giving a care about your feelings and find someone else who can. As such, we are seen as machines, who are just supposed to shut up and do the work, and if you can't, if you are broke and out of order, then you're replaced by another one.

Quoted for truth

We are disposable

Women view men through a utilitarian lens, but we give them the advantage

I reckon most blokes in our situation, ED in all its various poisonous forms, would gladly sacrifice a limb or a lung or some other vital appendage if it meant they could restore function to the penis. Frankly, if I could do a Donald Trump Art-of-the-Deal style parlay with God, I’d say, “Look, you can heap almost any other physical indignity on me- I’d still wake up with a smile on my face, so long as my dick worked like it used to.”

It really is the most spiritually corrosive condition you can give a man. However, like somebody else said, the pain, shame and humiliation attendant on our condition must shrivel in comparison to the horror of losing your child. I’m in awe of anybody who experiences that and doesn’t kill themselves because the emotional pain must be off the charts.

100% correct. I can't imagine outliving my son, or even seeing very sick.