WIVES WHO WONT LET THEMSELVES ENJOY ORAL SEX

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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gusord
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WIVES WHO WONT LET THEMSELVES ENJOY ORAL SEX

Postby gusord » Mon Sep 26, 2016 11:31 pm

Me and my wife used to have oral sex as in 69. I am 70 and she is 69 so she wears lingerie and other things. I do oral on her some times.

I think she has a mental block in her head and wont let herself enjoy the oral sex. I had 4 bypass surgery on my heart and I am in my

6th week of rehab. She seems to have forgotten that she used to do oral on me. Why do women all of a sudden not liking to do

something like oral sex ? The doctor said we can have sex after completing the 6th week after surgery.

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Postby dg_moore » Tue Sep 27, 2016 7:13 am

You can't generalize here. Some women enjoy oral and others do not. My wife is one who did not, and our sex life never suffered from its lack.
Dave, 74, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
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Re: WIVES WHO WONT LET THEMSELVES ENJOY ORAL SEX

Postby Reggieman » Wed Sep 28, 2016 11:19 pm

I think most women just don't see sex in the same way as men. To them its a different thing altogether. My wife thought wearing sexy lingerie was degrading and humiliating. Go figure. Some don't see that sex can be more than just an expression of love but can also be playful, exploratory, tantalizing, etc. Some women grow up with certain cultural and familial beliefs that draw the line at certain behaviors or acts. Some think they are modern and liberal but are not when it comes to the bedroom. Then menopause hits and their interest really fads. Some, not all. Just my 2 cents. It can be maddening.
Retired. R.P. June 2016 at UCSF. Bilateral nerve sparing robotic surgery. Use .15cc of Bimix twice weekly. Still have some incontinence and not improving. Get Bimix from Rancho Park Compounding Pharmacy in L.A.

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Postby ShopMan » Thu Sep 29, 2016 1:27 am

Reggieman wrote:I think most women just don't see sex in the same way as men. To them its a different thing altogether. My wife thought wearing sexy lingerie was degrading and humiliating. Go figure. Some don't see that sex can be more than just an expression of love but can also be playful, exploratory, tantalizing, etc. Some women grow up with certain cultural and familial beliefs that draw the line at certain behaviors or acts. Some think they are modern and liberal but are not when it comes to the bedroom. Then menopause hits and their interest really fads. Some, not all. Just my 2 cents. It can be maddening.


I agree Reggieman. My wife will on rare ocation perform oral on my but if I get anywhere close to climax she that's nasty. And I have tried many times to do oral on her and she just sort of lays there. No reaction. Maybe it's me. lol But when I ask her about it she says it's not me. It's just the way she was taught when she was young. Other then the oral however she is very sex oriented. And I might add multi-orgasmic.
80 yrs. Married 60 years. Hypertension but under control with meds.

ED since 1995. Viagra then switched to Cialis. Both quit working.
Was on Trimix. Tri-Mix quit working. Implanted by Dr. Novak Grand Rapids, Mi 12/16/2014 AMS LGX

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Postby olie20 » Mon Nov 07, 2016 2:14 pm

right on shopman, my wife won't do oral on me. She won't play around so I can arouse her. I am 69 and she is 73, will let me have sex with her but she is very non responsive. When we were younger she would get in to it, but the older she got the less she would have sex. We sleep in separate bedrooms, she says the CPAP I where bothers her. She knows I bought Cialis she is ok with that but won't play. She was brought up that sex was a taboo, and went through 12 years of Catholic school. I think the nuns really warped her mind. I am going for prostrate surgery and hopefully I can get an erection after. No cancer just to correct and enlarged prostrate. I am willing to get a pump installed if I can't get an erection. Don't know if Medicare will pay for it, hoping it does.

Keep trying, I know a lot of men just give up, but I totally enjoy sex and will to I am pushing up daises.

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Postby Anonymous2 » Mon Nov 07, 2016 3:33 pm

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Postby jonbaldbg » Mon Nov 07, 2016 3:37 pm

olie20 wrote:right on shopman, my wife won't do oral on me. She won't play around so I can arouse her. I am 69 and she is 73, will let me have sex with her but she is very non responsive. When we were younger she would get in to it, but the older she got the less she would have sex. We sleep in separate bedrooms, she says the CPAP I where bothers her. She knows I bought Cialis she is ok with that but won't play. She was brought up that sex was a taboo, and went through 12 years of Catholic school. I think the nuns really warped her mind. I am going for prostrate surgery and hopefully I can get an erection after. No cancer just to correct and enlarged prostrate. I am willing to get a pump installed if I can't get an erection. Don't know if Medicare will pay for it, hoping it does.

Keep trying, I know a lot of men just give up, but I totally enjoy sex and will to I am pushing up daises.


Women definitely lose some interest and ability after menopause. My wife takes hormones and that has allowed her to remain orgasmic. She's never been playful or aggressive, though. Don't think they make a pill for that. So, we schedule sex and it's still pretty good.
62 years old. ED for years. High BP and meds have done me in. AMS 700 CX /3.0 cm RTE Implanted by Andrew Kramer on 10/12/16. Involved revision to relocate tubes and pump performed 12/29/16 by Dr. Knoll of Nashville, TN.

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Postby Anonymous2 » Mon Nov 07, 2016 3:41 pm

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Postby rode2nowhere » Sun Nov 20, 2016 5:45 pm

my wife is 52 and I am 58, she is menopausal, I am horny as ever, she tells me I don't work anymore but I do with trimix, but I have shrinkage. she tells me its a good thing she does not want sex anymore or she would go somewhere and get it good elsewhere. what a life.

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Postby jonbaldbg » Sun Nov 20, 2016 5:51 pm

olie20 wrote:right on shopman, my wife won't do oral on me. She won't play around so I can arouse her. I am 69 and she is 73, will let me have sex with her but she is very non responsive. When we were younger she would get in to it, but the older she got the less she would have sex. We sleep in separate bedrooms, she says the CPAP I where bothers her. She knows I bought Cialis she is ok with that but won't play. She was brought up that sex was a taboo, and went through 12 years of Catholic school. I think the nuns really warped her mind. I am going for prostrate surgery and hopefully I can get an erection after. No cancer just to correct and enlarged prostrate. I am willing to get a pump installed if I can't get an erection. Don't know if Medicare will pay for it, hoping it does.

Keep trying, I know a lot of men just give up, but I totally enjoy sex and will to I am pushing up daises.



If by "pump" you mean implant, then yes Medicare does cover that.
62 years old. ED for years. High BP and meds have done me in. AMS 700 CX /3.0 cm RTE Implanted by Andrew Kramer on 10/12/16. Involved revision to relocate tubes and pump performed 12/29/16 by Dr. Knoll of Nashville, TN.


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