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If she knows how much you would enjoy getting a blowjob and she dislikes doing it even more than that it seems like a done deal.

If it’s possible she doesn’t know how you feel about it, it’s a good idea to have that conversation. Not when you are naked, hard, and in bed, but when things are calm and neutral.

The other thing that strikes me from reading this thread is that I don’t take marriage advice from people with multiple divorces. Advice about how to end up divorced sure, but not how to stay happily married. I get that advice from people with long happy marriages. I was taught that you cannnot give away what you do not have.

My wife never enjoyed giving oral. She would, as part of foreplay, suck a little but never to finish. Even if she got me close she would still finish by hand. After her surgery she lost all interest in any sex and for a couple of years it got to be a major problem in our relationship until final she told me to get it elsewhere but keep it discreet. Our best friend helped out and she loves getting and receiving oral and I know a couple of other mature women that are quite open minded and they both happily give oral to completion as well as enjoy receiving the return favor. My favorite sex act is getting a blowjob so I'm very lucky that I have friends that enjoy it. But, before my wife stopped altogether we did find one thing that I liked. She would suck my until I was close to a finish and then she would use one of those mouth shaped toys on me so I could climax. In the heat of the moment, her mouth being replaced by a toy that felt like a mouth was really nice and I loved that she came up with that idea.

Asquared65 wrote:My wife loves me eating out her pussy! The thing is see will not give me a blow job. Wondering if other guys are unlucky like me. Also you that are lucky enough to get blow jobs, how do you get your wife to do it?

i had a gf like that .s
back when i was 29. she was 26 . she was a horny nympho. and so was i haha .and i loved and she loved being eaten . the problem was she would give head but ask me to not cum i her mouth .suddenly she turned into a prude in that area .
we aren't together anymore .

Randalltx wrote:

Asquared65 wrote:My wife loves me eating out her pussy! The thing is see will not give me a blow job. Wondering if other guys are unlucky like me. Also you that are lucky enough to get blow jobs, how do you get your wife to do it?

Hi Asquared---


Being unpredictable will turn her on.

Pull the rug out from under her, by no longer being a doormat. Never let a woman take your continuance with her for granted. She has to earn your devotion every day just like you do by providing for her. Right now, put her on probation. She should show you that she appreciates and values you. If she doesn't, you will have to decide how you want to live the rest of your life because it will never get better in your situation from her baseline---she currently believes she wears the pants. Put your own pants on, respect yourself, and require treatment as a lover and a husband.

Thats' how you get oral. It's non-negotiable. "I don't want to " doesn't work. She might have done it for others before you. You can judge that for yourself. So just not you? She might have had guys she just played with before you and she had to give them what they wanted. But, you are a nice guy. No need to please nice guys. Nice guys don't get blow jobs or really interesting sex--those things are only for guys who require it.

Sorry, but you did ask how to get a wife to give blow jobs. I think a better question is why doesn't she want to give me blow jobs? and Has she ever given anyone a blow job? Can't ask, wouldn't get the truth anyway. But you can draw conclusions about what you do know of her.

good advice . nice guys bore woman . i had a girl come over a half dozen times and we would go at it in different positions. once when doing doggie i pulled out and had her suck me off , when i came AND spanked her the same time she acted shocked and said you came in my mouth ! i just smiled . later when cuddling she said how hot that was haha

Yea, my wife has never given me a blow job to completion. Lately she says she isn't comfortable sucking it after my bladder surgery and cancer treatment. Whenever it came to getting any I always had to ask. Really takes the fun out of it. Wore an oral condom once and begged her to finish me, it was so bad I couldn't finish.
I love to eat her pussy, and she loves me getting her off orally. Why there is no return who knows. I'm not going to force it, but I'm not done asking either when the mood hits.

My wife didn't give me head very often before my prostatectomy (she really didn't like the taste of semen and had a fear of getting it in her mouth), but now that she knows I can't ejaculate, she does it nearly every time we have sex for about 10 minutes, just to stimulate and massage me after the Trimix injection. I haven't mentioned to her the possibility of urine leakage (might put an end to the oral), but fortunately, I don't seem to have that issue. So besides getting rid of cancer, I'd say this is about the only good thing that came from the prostatectomy.

sogwap wrote:Early on in our marriage I got a bad case of ED, and haven't received OS since in over 10 years. I now use Trimix, so ED is not an issue. I have yet to ask.

Update: Several weeks ago I finally got the nerve to ask my wife why she hasn't given me OS in over 10 years.
She said that she thought I didn't like it!
If I had to choose OS or PIV, PIV would win. But it doesn't mean I don't like it as a treat.
So several times now she has given me a lick or two.

still_crazy wrote:My wife didn't give me head very often before my prostatectomy (she really didn't like the taste of semen and had a fear of getting it in her mouth), but now that she knows I can't ejaculate, she does it nearly every time we have sex for about 10 minutes, just to stimulate and massage me after the Trimix injection. I haven't mentioned to her the possibility of urine leakage (might put an end to the oral), but fortunately, I don't seem to have that issue. So besides getting rid of cancer, I'd say this is about the only good thing that came from the prostatectomy.

Similar experience here. Oral was always part of foreplay since our second date. My wife loves receiving oral and never needed coaxing to reciprocate with the caveat , “don’t cum in my mouth”. She wanted that PIV or finished me with a HJ if just a quickie.

After my prostatectomy, she really upped her oral skills and now enjoys when I orgasm in her mouth. And now with the implant it’s possible to keep going for a PIV orgasm too. I still miss my prostrate and natural erections but yeah, there’s some consolidations to it all.

If I was sitting on a couch and she between my legs sucking and trying for all she was worth to get me off, sometimes I would even go soft, and seldom come. Then I found that if I got on my hands and knees over her head I would come quickly. One birthday fuck when I was 73, she was laying on the bed waiting for me. to come out of the shower. She was all perfumed up with her head on a big hotel pillow. She patted the pillow front of her mouth and said bring me that dick. I got on my hands and knees over the pillow with my balls grazing it gently. When she pulled my dick into her mouth I was about to come right then. She held my balls gently and sucked me deeply. I bet I didnt do three strokes before I exploded into her mouth. She never slowed a bit. Just kept sucking and swallowed my come. She kept sucking till I was completely soft.I didnt pull away even then .Her continuing sucking was better than when I came. Then she says as she is coaxing me away. let's see if you can be as good. she spread her legs and opened her pussy while pushing her pubic bone with her finger tips. Her pussy was red and inflamed and was ozzing her milky white cum. Oh my god I loved to suck on that woman. She came almost immediately also and I kept licking. She begged me to stop but kept bucking her ass. I gave her about 3 minutes to calm down with my face on her belly. Then I put 2 fingers in her vagina and 1 finger in her ass hole, She protested but soon started bucking against my hand then exploded again. This was 2 years before my prostatectomy and I will remember it forever. She is gone form me now and we had 64 years of the greatest sex ever. I hope I was not to graphic but I have a photographic memory. She called it a pornographic memory. Crazy part when we were first married she was little catholic school girl.I was dumb also. She would suck my cock and I would think this is wrong and not want her to do it. The term Dirty cock sucker would come to my mind while she was sucking me. We went to a priest for counceling and he explained that anything a husband and wife does to each other sexually that brings pleasure was gods gift to them. Oh holy fuck, that opened the flood gate of passion in her.

What a great memory, thanks for sharing!