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Is there not an herbal or something to increase libido? What about flibansarin?

All the guys that are horny or crazy high libido please share how you maintain those feelings

PSSDorAmINormal wrote:Is there not an herbal or something to increase libido? What about flibansarin?

All the guys that are horny or crazy high libido please share how you maintain those feelings

Testosterone is a key driver of the female libido and it's absolutely worth evaluating. You'll need a physician with an open mind and motivated to get at root cause and rule in/rule out a hormonal (potential) deficiency, and testosterone replacement in women, even where clearly valid, is not without its pitfalls (hair growth etc). If you rule out hormonal issues with her (and you likely will) then you're asking a much bigger question around either

1. her re-establishing a formerly active libido, or
2. her forming an active libido in the absence of any experience every having exhibited one

Ideas galore on those subjects and deserving of a separate post. I'm guessing there are tons of threads on FT with myriad ideas and experiences both + and -

I'm 56. My own libido is a monster. Always has been. Unrelenting since youth. Interestingly, my testosterone tanked and I'm on replacement T for last 10 years or so. My T when discovered to be low (during ED evaluation) was in the 60s. Replaced now I maintain more or less 12-15x that level. And my libido has strengthened, I sense this, but this is nitpicking because it's always been strong even in the context of my T being at very suboptimal levels.

I don't know. Honestly I think some of my unintentional drivers of high libido have always been: creativity, novelty, experimentation, unknowns, taboos. I know for me there is an extremely powerful link from those thoughts and actions straight into tangible desire. It's self-feeding at some point. I've also been blessed with a very experimental (yet mostly submissive) wife who has been fertile ground for high libido-sharing. We definitely feed off one another and the excitement of trying things together seems to hit this critical mass where it all just has an energy almost of its own.

One guy's opinion, anyway.

stephen54 wrote:I'm 56. My own libido is a monster. Always has been. Unrelenting since youth. Interestingly, my testosterone tanked and I'm on replacement T for last 10 years or so. My T when discovered to be low (during ED evaluation) was in the 60s. Replaced now I maintain more or less 12-15x that level. And my libido has strengthened, I sense this, but this is nitpicking because it's always been strong even in the context of my T being at very suboptimal levels.

I don't know. Honestly I think some of my unintentional drivers of high libido have always been: creativity, novelty, experimentation, unknowns, taboos. I know for me there is an extremely powerful link from those thoughts and actions straight into tangible desire. It's self-feeding at some point. I've also been blessed with a very experimental (yet mostly submissive) wife who has been fertile ground for high libido-sharing. We definitely feed off one another and the excitement of trying things together seems to hit this critical mass where it all just has an energy almost of its own.

One guy's opinion, anyway.

Thanks for the response. The question was entirely about me (male body). I guess I sort of understand what you mean about thinking and thoughts as a driver of your libido. Maybe I do have some sort of libido when you put it that way. I guess I have had "thoughts" or been thinking sexual things before, but that might be where it ends. For me I don't really feel like doing anything. My PCP agreed to check some things on me at my last visit. I think he called it a testicular panel, but I'm not sure.

Maybe this is a little too basic, but most men are visual. I've noticed that I can go all week and not think about sex but then I see my wife streak through the house with her tits bouncing and ass wiggling and suddenly I want some. For the older men complaining about their libido perhaps a beautiful set of tits in your face is what you need to get that fire started.

68CatFan wrote:Maybe this is a little too basic, but most men are visual..

Oh, I don't think that's "too basic" at all. That's a pretty universal fuel for us. I'm extremely high libido but visuals trigger more, then even more, then more still. I'm with you, 68CatFan. There's seemingly always another gear, if you seek it and create potentially exciting situations. Visuals can jolt and re-set you into a filthy state of mind and then the mental animal awakens and kind of escapes the cage and you're off to the races.

PSSD said his thoughts may be there but then don't turn into action - Not clear on if there's a steady partner/spouse but would just say that his libido doesn't operate in a vacuum on its own. It has its own organic energy level and nature, for sure, but it's also in an intimate dance with his partner's libido (or lack thereof). For better or for worse, a couple's vibe together either stokes or dampens things. And there's value at times in being very intentional with sexuality.

We want to believe that all this good fun stuff just sort of materializes, and it's awesome when it does and a bummer when it doesn't, but there's huge value in actively setting the table with triggering situations - that's why I said novelty, taboos, experimentation etc. There is explosive sexual chemistry accessible to us through those behaviors - dopamine, norepinephrine, etc. Maybe having a flatlined libido is your experience, and maybe it's also just the frustrating story PSSD has come to tell himself. Maybe it's just the story he's most familiar with, but not something he's sentenced to accepting as-is.