Re: penis size
Posted: Sat Dec 14, 2019 1:18 pm
Due to the onset of ED in 2018, I've been engaged in a considerable amount of research on many sex related subjects.
One of them was erect penis length vs. vagina length, and how little/much these can effect a person's satisfaction with intercourse.
The "bottom lines" based upon results and averages from numerous studies:
1. From a very large study performed over many years, average human penis length was determined to be approximately 5.4 inches when fully erect.
2. The number of penises as long or longer than 7 inches is a small minority of the population, somewhere between 2% and 5%.
3. From another very large study performed over many years, average vaginal length was determined to be approximately 3 to 7 inches when a woman was not aroused.
4. During sexual arousal, a vagina becomes pliable and can easily stretch to accommodate most penises up to about 7 inches in length.
5. Beyond 7 inches, most women have difficulty accepting the full length of a penis without training their vaginas to stretch further. This training can be successful if a woman is dedicated to doing it and enduring uncomfortable stretching during the training process.
6. Most women are not focused on penis length for their satisfaction.
7. In dedicated relationships, most women are focused on intimacy and bonding, and for all women during coitus, a man's ability to remain hard enough, long enough, for them to experience an orgasm.
8. Women are generally not as focused on achieving orgasms as are men.
9. The great majority of women experience orgasm during penetration with concurrent stimulation of their clitorises, whether by their partner or by themselves.
10. For most women, the girth of a man's penis is more important than its length.
11. Girth can present 2 problems for women and men:
a. If a man's girth is very large, intercourse can be anywhere from uncomfortable to painful. Dedicated training of the vagina to accept a penis of large girth can help solve this problem. (A high quality lubricant can help reduce the intensity of this problem; I recommend using one that is silicon based.)
b. If a woman has experienced natural childbirth and no medical procedure was performed at its conclusion to compensate for the (usually permanent) stretching that occurs, she is usually going to be able to accept a penis of above average girth fairly easily. However, if a woman's sexual partner's penis is of approximately average girth, sufficient contact between penis and vagina to produce satisfaction may be lacking for both partners. The only solutions I have read for this problem are: i) a man's successful attempts to enlarge the girth of his penis without inflicting damage to it, and ii) a high degree of sexual stimulation for the woman such that her vagina is very swollen and tighter. But either of these solutions may not be optimum and may not produce the sexual satisfaction desired from penetration.
Of all the various sub-topics I have studied, the last one in the list is the most difficult problem to solve and the one most important to both men and women.
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I am going to make an important point by sharing something intimate from my relationship with my wife. This would normally be private but in the context of this forum, I'll share it:
My wife and I both watch high-quality, very explicit pornography together (erotic, no violence or demeaning treatment of women) as part of our sexual foreplay. We've had frank discussions about the visual stimuli that sexually excite us, both individually and as a couple. Both of us really like the sight of a long, hard, big, erect penis inserted, or about to be inserted, into a woman.
I've candidly asked my wife if a large penis is what she would prefer, since my penis is on the low end of the average dimensions for penises. Her candid response was "no". She likes to see a long, hard, big, erect penis. It is sexually provocative, it excites her, and frequently she has a reflexive thought, "I wonder if I could get that thing inside of me". (She remarked that she thinks most women reflexively have the same thought.) But she knows its just a reflex and that's not what she wants. She wants me. She really doesn't want me to bigger or longer. I am just right for her.
Since those discussions, I've never given the length of my penis a second thought.
The reason I've posted all of this is to make this point: Most of us, men and women, have a strong sexual response to the sight of an erect penis of extraordinary dimensions, but the reality of such a penis is quite different from the fantasy of it. While the sight of one is sexually provocative, there are real world issues about the ownership and deployment of such a tool, not the least of which is the physical limitations many, if not most, women have to accepting one into their bodies.
In the real world where we all exist, the reality is that a penis that is something close to average in scale is the most useful and desirable. I share that conclusion with the studies I read.
One of them was erect penis length vs. vagina length, and how little/much these can effect a person's satisfaction with intercourse.
The "bottom lines" based upon results and averages from numerous studies:
1. From a very large study performed over many years, average human penis length was determined to be approximately 5.4 inches when fully erect.
2. The number of penises as long or longer than 7 inches is a small minority of the population, somewhere between 2% and 5%.
3. From another very large study performed over many years, average vaginal length was determined to be approximately 3 to 7 inches when a woman was not aroused.
4. During sexual arousal, a vagina becomes pliable and can easily stretch to accommodate most penises up to about 7 inches in length.
5. Beyond 7 inches, most women have difficulty accepting the full length of a penis without training their vaginas to stretch further. This training can be successful if a woman is dedicated to doing it and enduring uncomfortable stretching during the training process.
6. Most women are not focused on penis length for their satisfaction.
7. In dedicated relationships, most women are focused on intimacy and bonding, and for all women during coitus, a man's ability to remain hard enough, long enough, for them to experience an orgasm.
8. Women are generally not as focused on achieving orgasms as are men.
9. The great majority of women experience orgasm during penetration with concurrent stimulation of their clitorises, whether by their partner or by themselves.
10. For most women, the girth of a man's penis is more important than its length.
11. Girth can present 2 problems for women and men:
a. If a man's girth is very large, intercourse can be anywhere from uncomfortable to painful. Dedicated training of the vagina to accept a penis of large girth can help solve this problem. (A high quality lubricant can help reduce the intensity of this problem; I recommend using one that is silicon based.)
b. If a woman has experienced natural childbirth and no medical procedure was performed at its conclusion to compensate for the (usually permanent) stretching that occurs, she is usually going to be able to accept a penis of above average girth fairly easily. However, if a woman's sexual partner's penis is of approximately average girth, sufficient contact between penis and vagina to produce satisfaction may be lacking for both partners. The only solutions I have read for this problem are: i) a man's successful attempts to enlarge the girth of his penis without inflicting damage to it, and ii) a high degree of sexual stimulation for the woman such that her vagina is very swollen and tighter. But either of these solutions may not be optimum and may not produce the sexual satisfaction desired from penetration.
Of all the various sub-topics I have studied, the last one in the list is the most difficult problem to solve and the one most important to both men and women.
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I am going to make an important point by sharing something intimate from my relationship with my wife. This would normally be private but in the context of this forum, I'll share it:
My wife and I both watch high-quality, very explicit pornography together (erotic, no violence or demeaning treatment of women) as part of our sexual foreplay. We've had frank discussions about the visual stimuli that sexually excite us, both individually and as a couple. Both of us really like the sight of a long, hard, big, erect penis inserted, or about to be inserted, into a woman.
I've candidly asked my wife if a large penis is what she would prefer, since my penis is on the low end of the average dimensions for penises. Her candid response was "no". She likes to see a long, hard, big, erect penis. It is sexually provocative, it excites her, and frequently she has a reflexive thought, "I wonder if I could get that thing inside of me". (She remarked that she thinks most women reflexively have the same thought.) But she knows its just a reflex and that's not what she wants. She wants me. She really doesn't want me to bigger or longer. I am just right for her.
Since those discussions, I've never given the length of my penis a second thought.
The reason I've posted all of this is to make this point: Most of us, men and women, have a strong sexual response to the sight of an erect penis of extraordinary dimensions, but the reality of such a penis is quite different from the fantasy of it. While the sight of one is sexually provocative, there are real world issues about the ownership and deployment of such a tool, not the least of which is the physical limitations many, if not most, women have to accepting one into their bodies.
In the real world where we all exist, the reality is that a penis that is something close to average in scale is the most useful and desirable. I share that conclusion with the studies I read.