Re: touble getting wife on board
Posted: Sat Mar 06, 2021 1:34 pm
Lost Sheep has good advice: honesty in marriage is best. My wife did me a favor a year or so into our marriage by telling me that she was dissatisfied with my small penis. She confessed that her ex had a big one, and she had gotten used to the "filled feeling." So I got her some big dildoes and suggested that she masturbate with one while imagining that she's being done by a virile guy. This has worked wonders. It's now 30 years later, I've never been able to give her a penile orgasm, but she's been a happy and receptive wife all this time. Even in the Chinese virus quarantine, we like to be together all the time.
Every second or third day (she's my age!) I hold a dildo in her so she doesn't have to reach down awkwardly, and as she gets closer to orgasm I push it in further, and she always has a good orgasm. Then I encourage her to rest with it in for 15-30 minutes to savor the filled feeling. Afterward I encourage her to describe her fantasy and she enthusiastically reports what her "lover" did - sometimes two or more guys. Once a week I inject Trimix first, getting hard while she's in her fantasy, and then do her after the dildo. She's again totally honest and never pretends that she feels anything, just lies there and basks in the last tingles of her orgasm or reviews the grocery list or something.
It stands to reason that after decades of marriage a wife would grow tired of the same penis attached to the same guy using the same techniques. The contemporary writer Wednesday Martin has written some interesting books on the female need for sexual variety. Her ideas, along the lines of real boyfriends, might be too much for most of us guys, but she says they're a good way to get energy back into tired marriages.
Maybe wives who "aren't on board" can be persuaded to go along more with something smacking of what my wife and I do. (If anyone feels that women don't or shouldn't masturbate, I have some thoughts on female masturbation from dating many women pre-marriage: 5-4-20 post in "Masturbation during Marriage" topic in "Sexuality 2.0" forum.)
I feel that female sexual frustration is dangerous (it ruined my parents' marriage), and this is one way that I get my wife to "let off steam." Another is by showing no annoyance when she occasionally mentions my small size as we're going about our daily life; I laugh and say something like "the rest of me is pretty good, huh?" and she giggles, and we hug and kiss. (Of course I never mention the phrase "letting off the steam of frustration").
Every second or third day (she's my age!) I hold a dildo in her so she doesn't have to reach down awkwardly, and as she gets closer to orgasm I push it in further, and she always has a good orgasm. Then I encourage her to rest with it in for 15-30 minutes to savor the filled feeling. Afterward I encourage her to describe her fantasy and she enthusiastically reports what her "lover" did - sometimes two or more guys. Once a week I inject Trimix first, getting hard while she's in her fantasy, and then do her after the dildo. She's again totally honest and never pretends that she feels anything, just lies there and basks in the last tingles of her orgasm or reviews the grocery list or something.
It stands to reason that after decades of marriage a wife would grow tired of the same penis attached to the same guy using the same techniques. The contemporary writer Wednesday Martin has written some interesting books on the female need for sexual variety. Her ideas, along the lines of real boyfriends, might be too much for most of us guys, but she says they're a good way to get energy back into tired marriages.
Maybe wives who "aren't on board" can be persuaded to go along more with something smacking of what my wife and I do. (If anyone feels that women don't or shouldn't masturbate, I have some thoughts on female masturbation from dating many women pre-marriage: 5-4-20 post in "Masturbation during Marriage" topic in "Sexuality 2.0" forum.)
I feel that female sexual frustration is dangerous (it ruined my parents' marriage), and this is one way that I get my wife to "let off steam." Another is by showing no annoyance when she occasionally mentions my small size as we're going about our daily life; I laugh and say something like "the rest of me is pretty good, huh?" and she giggles, and we hug and kiss. (Of course I never mention the phrase "letting off the steam of frustration").