It was an evening last November when I turned to my wife and said “You know what? I can’t find a web site for ED anywhere on the internet.” Oh, I had found what most of us see and what deluges our mailboxes everyday – commercial sites trying to sell me potions, pumps, pills and powders all guaranteed to cure every male desire for size, virility, stamina and pleasure. In fact, if I just paid enough money, women would find me completely irresistible. (And, just like most men, I have long puzzled why they didn’t find me irresistible already! But that topic is for a different website.)
Well, my wife, being a media specialist assured me that ED sites were probably being filtered. Long story short, other than a few quiet forums buried politely in larger medical and on-line communities, it certainly seemed that everyone was not quite ready to lay it all out there and create a site solely dedicated to the topic.
What unfolded over the next several months astonished me. Everywhere I turned, it seemed men wanted to talk to me about this most private, frustrating, and personal topic. I belong to an UsToo Prostate Cancer Support group and I had become known as the guy to ask about ED resources, but beyond that, I certainly did not see myself as anyone terribly knowledgeable about the topic. In short, I have discovered that contrary to popular thought, it is not that men don’t want to talk about this stuff, it is that they are afraid to talk about this stuff. I have no special knowledge about ED. After prostate surgery, I was probably a textbook patient with the usual progress and treatments. But guys have pointed out to me that I seem willing, safe, and just enough “out there” that they are comfortable talking about it with me. And so it has progressed. Guys online email me questions. While walking down city streets, men will pour out their frustrations. Medical professionals have asked me about treatments. Guys in my support group will pull me aside to talk to me about ED.
I never thought I would end up doing something like this. I don’t see myself as any expert on anything. But I suppose it must be that I’m willing to talk about it and be blunt. My wife told me that “frank” was a better word than blunt. So, she gave me the name of the site. Here it is guys. It is no where near where I want it to be. I will be adding pages devoted to treatments and even a safe place to buy things. But most of all, this site is a safe place where guys can come to talk, ask questions and feel like they are not alone in their battles! Take it. It’s yours.
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