As time has gone on, the next phase of Franktalk is falling into place. Look for new pages on treatments soon. The chat room is on its way as well. I was sort of gratified that there seems to be support for the chat room. I can’t tell how many guys I have talked to on the phone about this stuff and we always leave feeling so much better and more hopeful. Isolation among men about this topic is staggering. We are all familiar with the male bravado that would preclude any admission that things weren’t going so well in the sex department. I hope the chat room will help with the isolation and feeling of being disconnected from the rest of the male population.
One friend told me when we were talking about this, that in our society, the average guy has one best friend: he is his former college roommate and he lives a thousand miles away. Other than that one best friend, most of us have no intimate relationship with any other man in our lives. I would say, from my experience and talking to guys over the last few years, that this is pretty accurate. If you find yourself among the company of men with whom you can freely share things, count your blessings.
Along with this thought is the response I get from many people (mostly women) when I mention this site – “Oh, guys just don’t want to talk about that stuff.” Actually, my experience has been the opposite. We want to talk about it, we are just too scared. The risks of opening up ourselves like that are just too monumental. But if we find someone we trust and makes us feel safe enough, most guys dealing with ED are dying to talk about it. I’m hoping the chat room is anonymous enough that guys can feel safe enough to talk. Then there is the simple concept of sharing thoughts, tips, ideas and successes with each other that makes a huge difference.
As you read over the treatment pages, please give feedback if you like. It is a monumental task to distill things down to a few paragraphs. I have avoided clinical talk since most men don’t care – and clinical talk is not how we function in life. If I have left important points out let me know. Use the appropriate forums for your experiences and tips to help other guys – you were probably wondering why they were there!
Thanks for the responses we’ve gotten so far. Onward and upward.
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